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Friday, February 17, 2017

Plan A: Believe God.

Friday, February 17, 2017 @ 7:49 AM

In my last blog, we took a brief look at supernatural faith and how faith can become a struggle if hope is lost.

So, I want you to do something for me. Just try this out and see if it works. The next time you face loss of hope, disappointment, or a testing of your faith, go straight to Plan A: Believe God.

Meditate on the Truth

First, search the scriptures and find out what God says about your situation and meditate on the truth of His word. The word meditate may sound foreign to you, but believe me, you know how to do it. In scripture, the word meditate is haga, meaning to moan, growl, mutter, muse, or imagine. This same word is used in Isaiah 31:4 as a picture of a lion roaring and growling over its prey. The lion is tenacious and stubborn. He will not let go of his prey though many enemies come against him. Have you ever worried about anything for a period of time? Have you chewed on that worry like a bone? Have you tenaciously held onto it until you felt the worry lift? That is meditating, but it’s meditating on the wrong thing. When you worry, you may even be meditating on the plans of the enemy! Jesus commands us not to worry. (Matthew 6:25) Instead, scriptures encourage us to meditate (chew on, mutter, imagine, or muse on) the promises of God.

Monday, February 13, 2017

Supernatural Faith For A Supernatural Year

Monday, February 13, 2017 @ 9:07 AM

“Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things unseen.” (Hebrews 11:1)
Every time a new year comes around, I get excited. I know God has good plans for me and my family…plans to prosper us and not to harm us. (Jeremiah 29:11)

This year, as I was listening to what the Lord has in store for me, I heard, “Arise, shine; for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you.” (Isaiah 60:1) This was His encouragement and assignment or theme for the year.

When I know I am hearing from the Father’s heart, a supernatural faith rises up in me. I can sense His joy and peace over me, and I know those good things are coming!

Have you ever experienced this type of supernatural faith? Or is having faith sometimes a struggle for you? What if you possessed the gift of faith from God? Not a faith where you simply believe in God, but a faith where you believe what God says is actually TRUE for you!

Thursday, February 02, 2017

A Word Imagined

Thursday, February 02, 2017 @ 4:55 PM

by Jennifer Christian, LPC and Dr. Jeff M. Christian

Words of hate tear at the fabric of our society; words of kindness mend.

Imagine.

Imagine life without unkind words. Imagine comments sections on your favorite website that only allow constructive criticism, words meant to further the conversation rather than out-shout those who disagree.

Today, online words of hate, abuse, fear, and violence are rampant. The intensity of negativity overwhelms us, a tsunami of words altering our lives without us realizing their enormous power. This new world often feels devoid of kindness. Few of us would choose to pass on this world to the next generations, so we begin this project in the hopes that we can change the future by changing the present.

We have power to create a better world.

Imagine.

Imagine a world that offers encouragement. Imagine a world where people matter. Too often, though, we feel helpless in even thinking about making a change. Where should we begin?

Well, we have some ideas... http://www.jenniferchristiancounseling.com/counseling/a-word-imagined/

Wednesday, February 01, 2017

HOW TO LOVE SOMEONE WHO IS BITTER!

Wednesday, February 01, 2017 @ 7:34 PM

How to love someone who is bitter….

We all know someone who is bitter, whether a coworker, a family member, a friend, or a spouse, you cannot deny the invisible stench of their bitterness. Often, you can hear it in their tone of voice, their responses and most often their direct communication.
People who hold onto bitterness can be oblivious that this root is deeply seeded in their hearts. If we were to approach them directly on their bitterness, the response can turn ugly fast. So often we are left not knowing how to respond.
Know this, the truth is at one point of their lives they have decided that they are sick of the hurt and pain that others caused them or maybe the injustice done in their life. They have unconsciously made the decision that they will no longer in their mind “allow anyone to take advantage of them anymore” So they hold on to the anger, thinking it’s their defense and their friend. This causes them to mull over conversations and wrong doings in their mind over and over again. The bitterness seeps in deeper and deeper and they weed grows sometimes so big that they can barely see through it anymore. It steals their joy, it steals their peace and it steals from them daily. And all they must do is give that over to Jesus, who is the one who can cut the root out.
In the meantime, until they give that up to Jesus… we all feel the stinky effects it leaves on us!
So how do we love and approach someone with bitterness?
First let’s define bitterness. the dictionary defines bitterness as “having a harsh disagreeably bitter taste, like that of aspirin, quinine, wormwood or aloe. Boy that is bitter! And let’s just think of when we have a bitter in our mouth, noting tastes or seems right after that.
In the same way, they have a hard time hearing god’s truths, or perceive information in healthy ways regarding themselves, others, and God, leaving it very difficult for their loved ones around them to be in a healthy communication.
The bible often talks about bitterness and to get rid of it fast! (Ephesians 4:31:32).

As a Clinical pastoral counselor, I have learned that behind bitterness, is usually a person who has a hard time believing that they are worth being loved themselves.
Somewhere along the line they came into agreement with the lies of not being good enough and/or that God does not love them enough. Unfortunately, the devil loves this type of self-talk because it doubts God’s goodness and loving truth!
True healing for them, is too have them come out of agreement with the lies and into the truth of Gods promises.
You can help them, and protect your own heart as well.
Here are some easy steps to remember when dealing with someone with bitterness,
1. Choose to forgive that person. (Luke 23;24) If we look beyond the layers of bitterness you will truly find a person so hurt and often broken. Before the next phone call, day or meeting up with this person, try saying this “God I choose to forgive_________ I know only you can change their hearts, so therefore I choose to forgive_____________.

2. DON’T Own It! Yes, bitter words can come out like arrows to our own heart. Don’t own it, it was never meant to be ours to wear in the first place. Remember …It is their stuff, not yours! When you start to sense the bitterness coming, you can choose to lovingly cut the conversation short or change the subject.

3. Pray for this person! My goodness, this person needs our prayers in the worst ways! Can you imagine living with bitterness? It steals their joy, it steals from them living in the moment and it steals from them hearing the truth from God. Pray, Pray and more prayer.

4. Fight back with love, the bible says that love covers a multitude of sins. With every arrow shot to our own hearts, fight back with kindness and love.

5. Serve Them, consider doing something out of the ordinary, Jesus washed the feet of those who did not deserve it.. However, by washing their feet, he was showing them the loving kindness and authentic love that God has for them. It breaks down barriers!

6. Lastly, Respond and DO NOT REACT, bitterness is that ugly, it would love to take you down too! It would love for you to exemplify the same behaviors of mulling over the conversation repeatedly. NO! Don’t do it … it’s a trick from the enemy. Keep your joy! And Give it over to GOD

Finally, you will be shocked if they do break away from bitterness that underneath that mess, is a loving, caring and sensitive spirit that can be a blessing in your life!

I hope this article helped you and please share if it can help someone else..

Carrie Price -Knospe, M.A
Redeemed and Renewed Counseling
Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor


www.redeemedandrenewedcounseling.com

Friday, January 27, 2017

Surprised by God: A Journey of Divine Discovery

Friday, January 27, 2017 @ 1:37 PM

Most of us say we know God, but do we really? Have we allowed our traditions, our fears, even our wounds to cast an image of God that is lifeless or irrelevant? Get ready to discover a God who is more wonderful, more affectionate and intimate than you could possibly imagine -- a God who has interest, care and compassion for you and your situation.
Surprised by God is about a journey of discovery - If you have a longing for more than just religious routine and ceremony, this book is for you. If you have a voice inside that tells you that your life can be so much more, then dare to come on your own journey of "divine discovery". Dare to be surprised by God!

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

Live, Love, & Laugh Couples Retreat

Wednesday, January 25, 2017 @ 10:05 PM

This 3-day weekend retreat is a great weekend get-away for any couple wanting to revitalize their relationship! The Live, Love, & Laugh Couples Retreat has the potential to strengthen relationships or repair ruptured relationships by helping couples identify behaviors that are damaging to the relationship and replacing them with intimacy producing behaviors. The couples will leave with a better understanding and appreciation of each other. Come and experience your partner in a different way that will improve connectedness and increase intimacy. The retreat will take place at Murphin Ridge Inn, a bed & breakfast, on April 21-23.
Visit http://www.waybridgecounseling.com/couples-retreat for more information.

Monday, January 23, 2017

Mindfulness Potpourri Workshop

Monday, January 23, 2017 @ 3:52 PM

For many Christians, the thought of Meditation, using Prayer Beads or Essential Oils or participating in Yoga are for 'other spiritual orientations,' not for Christians. But guess what??? God wants us to enter into a quiet place in order to hear from Him. We can do that many ways and the four I mentioned are just a handful of opportunities to get closer to God.
The Mindfulness Potpourri Workshop offers participants the opportunity to be part of a group of Christians attempting to get quiet and still in our loud and fast world and to explore ideas and practices that you may never have considered using before.

February 18 from 8:30am-1pm, The Center for Contemplative Living will be teaching us how to meditate.
March 4 from 10am-12pm we will learn how to use essential oils to calm our nervous system.
April 1 from 10am-12pm we will be taught how to use Prayer Beads as a way to be mindful but to worship God as well.
May 6 from 10am-12pm a certified Holy Yoga teacher will be teaching us how to worship God through yoga.

All sessions will be held at Sloan's Lake Community Church, 2796 Utica St., Denver, 80212
You may attend all sessions for $60 or select which ones you'd like to attend for $20 per session.

Please contact Ellen Perricone MSW, LSW for more information or to register: htjourney@gmail.com or 720-810-4740

Wednesday, January 18, 2017

8 Minute Inteview with Empire Broadcasting Group - Studio 2

Wednesday, January 18, 2017 @ 4:05 PM

I will be interviewed on a online Radio Talk Program on January 23, 2017, Monday at 11:15 am. to answer questions about my services and tell about my inspirational story as founder of Faith and Healing Ministries.

Hope you can tune in!

The website: http://empirebroadcastinggroup.com/listen-live/studio-2/

Writing Your Own Self-Care List

Wednesday, January 18, 2017 @ 10:18 AM

By Jennifer Christian, M.A., LPC 69112

Today during my routine morning walk I began to ponder the many self-care skills that I use regularly. Over the years, I have learned that I feel better when I make time to:

Walk
Eat right
Nap
Practice gratitude
Practice prayerful meditation
Practice yoga
Have fun
Plan enjoyable activities
Spend time with friends

This may seem like a no brainer to some people, but personally it has been an evolution of self-acceptance and self-compassion. Healthy habits that are so natural for me today were nonexistent several years ago.

I remember the first time I received a self-care list. It was about 10 years ago. I was fatigued, stressed out, and pushing myself harder and harder to be perfect. I could not go on this way much longer. I was at a breaking point. I found Nancy, a therapist who began to help me process how I found myself at this point and how to move forward. During one session, she gave me a self-care handout that addressed physical, emotional, and spiritual health. I had never seen anything like it. What a radical concept!

As a child, I received a version of a "Christian" message that I should always sacrifice my own needs on behalf of others. Somewhere along the way I learned that my needs were not only unimportant, but that it was selfish for me to express my needs. I was told that whenever I felt empty and exhausted I should pray harder and God would provide. But years and years of emptying myself for others wore away at my physical and emotional health. Moreover, there was not enough of me to go around, and my children and husband sometimes got the short end of the stick. This approach was not sustainable.

When Nancy handed me the self-care list, I began a journey of learning self-care and boundaries. In the beginning, I carried the list with me wherever I went, especially when I found myself around difficult people who suck the life out of me, treat me like I do not matter, or that they should always come first. I needed a reminder that it is okay to respond to myself with care. At one point I even carried my self-care list to a challenging family gathering in another state. I referred to the list several times as a support to say “no” when needed, or to allow myself rest when I was tired. I began to experience a positive difference.

“When you doubt your own importance, you’re allowing the manipulations of difficult people to gain a foothold. However, when you understand that your time, money, dignity and needs are vital to your well-being, it’s easier to tune out people who want to break your boundaries.” Margarita Tartakovsky

Now I practice responding to myself in the same way that I want to respond to others: with love, compassion, kindness, gratitude, acceptance, and gentleness. I continue to learn what it is to be a compassionate and loving person every time I practice compassion and love with myself. I am a recovering perfectionist, so I often have to start my compassionate practice over again daily...

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Walk With Me Grief Support Group

Tuesday, January 17, 2017 @ 2:27 PM

The Walk With Me ® Grief Support Group is facilitated by Tonya Ratliff, the Owner and Director of Trinity Family Counseling Center. Offered at no cost to the community, this group is designed to provide the attendee with an overview of the entire grief journey.

Tonya’s approach to the group is one fueled by unconditional compassion, as she assists those in attendance in coping with the anguishing adjustment to a life that has changed without their permission.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

8 minute Interview by Empire Radio on Motivating Hearts of Inspiration, Inc.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017 @ 6:22 PM

I will be answering questions about Motivating Hearts of Inspiration, Inc. and describing the various services we offer. I will also be singing a little sample of a song that I wrote to motivate those inspired hearts. Feel free to tune in!

You can also follow my newly launched blog for regular words of encouragement:

www.motivatingheartsofinspiration.wordpress.com/

Sunday, January 08, 2017

Beautifully Broken: My Journey to a Mended Heart

Sunday, January 08, 2017 @ 11:13 PM

Beautifully Broken: My Journey to a Mended Heart is a shocking memoir of Rhonda Marie Stalb’s rocky road to peace and joy. It is a journey of adversity and healing. This poignant story shows vividly how God is very aware of our hurts. We see how God is with us every step of the way through the pain, trials and losses. In her story, Rhonda makes it very evident that our pain can lead us to people who can be the hands and feet of Jesus Christ to help us along the road to healing. God doesn’t waste our pain because He transforms the shattered pieces of life into a beautiful masterpiece. It is only by being Beautifully Broken that Rhonda has learned to minister to those who have the same hurts, fears, and dreams. Her goal is to help people who are on a similar road to find their way to being Beautifully Broken.

Sunday, January 01, 2017

Self-Identified Christian Women and Divorce: The Recovery and Discovery of Self

Sunday, January 01, 2017 @ 12:38 PM

Published in The Journal of Psychology and Christianity
Authors: Gwen White, PsyD and Deborah Berghuis, PhD

For the authors of this study, a concern emerged in our interactions with female clients who placed a high value on their religious beliefs. They came to us with stories of deep distress related to separation/divorce and many accounts of increased stress due to their interactions with Christian friends and with clergy. This study grew out of a desire to understand more fully the process self-identified Christian women experienced in separation/divorce. The objective nature of the changes with separation/divorce (decreased financial and social resources, increased responsibilities for children, relationship conflicts, etc.) did not fully account for the emotional turmoil these individuals recognized in themselves, particularly the change in self-representations they reported. The influence of their belief systems and religious practices filled their stories.

Tuesday, December 20, 2016

Is EFT Couple Counseling right for you?

Tuesday, December 20, 2016 @ 2:39 PM

By Jen Page Hubal, M.A., LMFT 95978
I receive many calls from people in our community requesting couple counseling. Sometimes they ask, “What kind of therapy do you do?” This is a very good question because different therapists use different methods for counseling depending on their background and training. I work with couples using Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). EFT is a very effective way to help couples who are having challenges with their relationship.
I chose to work with couples using EFT for two main reasons. First, I wanted a treatment for my clients that could create positive change in their relationship. And second, I wanted the effects of counseling to last over time. Research on the effectiveness of EFT therapy showed that couples receiving EFT had 70-73% recovery rate from marital distress and 90% demonstrated significant improvement (Johnson, 2004). Therapy results can never be guaranteed, but EFT has been researched for over 20 years and has been shown to help couples create and maintain a healthy relationship with lasting results.
When I work with you using EFT I will be focusing on the relationship between you and your partner in terms of your emotional bond. A healthy bond is created when each partner becomes a source of security and comfort for the other. Couples in marital distress are trapped in negative patterns of interacting that weaken or damage their emotional bond. In many cases couples have been trapped in negative patterns that create resentment, defensiveness, hurt, and conflict. These patterns can be very difficult to recognize when you are “in them”. You may not even know they are there! Perhaps there has been disconnection, resentment and/or conflict for a long time that has worn away at the positive connection you once had. Or maybe there was a negative experience that caused broken trust such as an affair, reoccurring lying or secret addictions.
It is possible to learn a new ways of relating to your partner. With EFT, couples learn new ways of interacting that create connection and build a healthy emotional bond. In a healthy bond we feel understood, appreciated, cared for, and secure. EFT couples therapy can be described as a journey from defensiveness, frustration and isolation to emotional engagement, security and a sense of connectedness.
I hope that you decide to give EFT and couples therapy a try. My hope for your marriage is that you get connected and stay connected. Read more at www.healthhopecounseling.com
Jen Page Hubal, M.A., MFT
(530) 488-0585
jen@healthhopecounseling.com
Reference:
Johnson, S.M. (2004). Creating connection: The practice of emotionally focused couple therapy. New York, NY: Brunner-Routledge

Thursday, December 08, 2016

The Life of Faith

Thursday, December 08, 2016 @ 6:44 PM

This book is an informative book about a life that is filled with faith and the love of Christ.
This book has been in print for over 80 years. It is written by Cornelia Nuzum. Cornelia encourages others to live humbly and witness boldly.

Wednesday, November 09, 2016

Mondays Get Me Down

Wednesday, November 09, 2016 @ 2:56 PM

Kari Froelicher, MA, LPC
Why is it that most people just don't seem to like Mondays? Mondays represent the beginnings of a new day of the work week and for many of us we dread another week of work. We wish the week ends would go on and on and we could continue to play or do whatever we were doing during the weekends. Maybe we have to get up early on Mondays and we hate getting up early. We look forward to sleeping in on the weekends when we don't have to work. How horrible to be in a job that you dread going to. I've been there. It saps all the life out of you. It drains the energy out if you. And you begin to look like poor Garfield in the picture. Who wants to live life like that? That is no way to live.

So what do you do? I think you have to make a decision first of all that you don't want to live that way no matter how great that paycheck might be, how great those benefits are or whatever the reasons are that are keeping you in that job that feels more like a prison than a blessing. You have to look for what your passion(s) is (or are) and go for that. That will make you feel energized and alive. You will feel like you have a purpose to be doing what you have a passion for, even if you don't make a lot of money at it. And strangely enough if you have passion for it you probably will make money at it. And more than likely you will be good at it too because if you have a passion for it you will put the time and energy into it and that means you will be learning and doing and excelling. Wow how can you lose!

Now you'll never hate Mondays again. I am self employed. I look at my job completely different than maybe a lot of people. I went on a horse camping trip recently, and don't get me wrong I LOVE horse camping trips and would love to be out there all the time but I also LOVE my job too, so when we got back my friend called me after I got back to work and said "So how does it feel to be back to work after the trip?". I immediately thought "Oh it is wonderful I am sooo glad to have clients to see", but then I hesitated and thought "oh no I think he wants to hear that I am sad to be back away from the trip" and so I wasn't sure what to say for a minute. I can't really remember what I ended up saying. But I don't hate Mondays. Of course I take Mondays off. But I don't hate Tuesdays either, because I enjoy the opportunity that I am given to work and be around the clients I have. I have a passion and I am doing it. Find your passion and do it!

Free Seminar: Holiday Stress Busters

Wednesday, November 09, 2016 @ 12:55 PM

With Christmas coming up, Thanksgiving just behind you, and family issues this can be a time of lots of stress for most of us. Come learn some simple things you can do to beat the Holiday stress in this very overstressed world.

This will be a one hour seminar in the Wickenburg library conference room. It will be interactive and fun.

December 5, 2016 Monday at 10am Wickenburg library conference room.

For more information call Kari at 928-232-9280

Just come as you are.

Tuesday, November 08, 2016

Real Help for Real People

Tuesday, November 08, 2016 @ 5:25 PM

Sometimes asking for help is the hardest thing to do, even though we know it is needed. At Regal Oak Counseling we are concerned with what you need, how you feel, and what you hope to accomplish. We can help you with practical ways to apply Scripture to your every day life, and work together to help you reach your therapeutic goals. Whether you are experiencing difficulty adjusting to change, dealing with loss, having relationship difficulties, or find yourself challenged in numerous areas, let Regal Oak Counseling walk with you through the difficulty.

We provide counseling for individuals, couples, families, and groups. We also accept most major insurance and various employee assistance programs. Contact us today at 682-651-7621 for more information.

Carrie M, Allen, MA, LPC
Owner, Regal Oak Counseling, LLC
Mansfield, Texas

Monday, November 07, 2016

3 Things You'll Notice if Your Husband is Rebuilding Trust

Monday, November 07, 2016 @ 8:40 PM

It’s amazing how things change once your husband starts to talk with a counselor or marriage coach after you’ve discovered he has sexually betrayed you. Finding out that your husband has been unfaithful to you, or that he has been dabbling with pornography was incredibly hurtful. Perhaps this is the situation you’re in right now, and you need a little bit of encouragement about whether or not this is going to work for your marriage.
Here are three things you and your husband will notice fairly quickly when he decides to seek help by honestly sharing his feelings and struggles with a professional. Remember, the goal for both of you is freedom from those habits that are doing damage to your relationship and your marriage.

HE BEGINS TO COOPERATE WITH GOD
Amazing things start to happen when we cooperate with God. This is true even if we’re hesitant or if we doubt that it will make a difference in our lives. God understands our reluctance to change as human beings, but when your husband reaches out to Him, there’s an incredible transformation that takes place in him from the inside out. You’ll notice that he’ll become authentic, he’ll take ownership for the mistakes he made, and he is willing to do whatever it takes to create safety and security in your relationship. One surefire sign that you husband is serious about changing is his desire to lead spiritually in the marriage. He is eager to read a daily devotional with you, is happy to help the children dress for church and takes time to pray with you. He’ll begin to see that freedom from the chains of infidelity and dishonesty is possible because he is getting honest with God and you.

HE STARTS TO VALUE YOUR MARRIAGE
As God begins to work in your husband, he will start to remember how he felt about your marriage when you first got married. The passion will start to rekindle in his heart, only it will be renewed with God’s power behind it. He’ll have a deep desire to heal because it will mean healing himself as well as the pain he has caused for you. He does what it takes to take care of you and expresses his love though various caring behaviors that are meaningful to you. In a way, it’s as if God opens his eyes to the plans He has for your marriage, and that is such a great revelation.

HE IS FOCUSED ON INTEGRITY
As God transforms your husband and gains understanding of how important your marriage is, a deeper level of integrity will be born within his heart. He will desire accountability from you, his coach or counselor and support group. He gives you username and passwords to access his phone, social media accounts, checking and savings accounts. There is radical honesty in every aspect of his personal life. He maintains his commitment to you and your marriage for the long haul, but most of all, he will desire it to maintain his commitment to God. Honesty will become important to him, and he’ll be thrilled with the changes in himself because of his honesty. That’s because when he’s finally doing the right thing and making good decisions, he’ll be able to sleep at night again and he’ll feel good about himself. It will take time for you to begin to trust your husband again. But if he is consistent with his actions that trust will slowly begin to rebuild.
It’s really amazing what happens when we get answers for addictions that have plagued us for years. God is the answer, and as Christian marriage coaches and counselors in Beaufort, SC, we would love to help you discover that answer for your marriage.

If you would like to make an appointment to talk with a professional Christian Marriage Coach and Counselor who can help you save your marriage, please contact us at 843-379-0288. You can also use our convenient  to make your appointment.
Whether you’re a woman who is praying fervently that her husband wants to save your marriage or you’re a husband who is searching for help, turning to God can change everything for your marriage.

Friday, November 04, 2016

T. Charles Brantley Ph. d Radio - Hot 937FM

Friday, November 04, 2016 @ 9:23 PM

Sample on Radio - Relationships Love Mommy Boy and other issues

National Taped Show - Bill Cunningham

Friday, November 04, 2016 @ 9:19 PM

Bill Cunningham show invited Dr Brantley in 2013. Title of show was "how to catch a cheater" - aired national November 5 2013 and re-aired on January 21 2014

T. Charles Brantley Ph.d Style

Friday, November 04, 2016 @ 9:15 PM

Unique in the fashion that more men enjoy his counseling because issues are not covered up. He uses real world analogies to draw out real world solutions. If you are looking for a counselor to just take notes you have the wrong guy. if you are looking for a counselor to sugar coat issues you have the wrong guy.

However, if you are looking for a real world counselor who will let you be you than come under false pretense than you have come to the right place. Whether the issue is communication, sex, blended families, and finance or past issues, Pastor TC will guild you through the abyss of marriage.

Pastor TC proficiency lies in dealing with past issues and providing couples the tools to
survive an affair.

T C will not solve every problem but will help you deal and find solutions to those problems. His blend of emotional and marriage counseling can not be described. It can only be experienced.

*The American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) is approved by the American Psychological Association (APA) to offer continuing education for psychologists, the National Board of Certified Counselors (#5627) to offer continuing education for National Certified Counselors, and by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences in counseling to offer continuing education for marriage and family therapists, professional counselors, social workers, and psychologists.

21 Books Written by T. Charles Brantley Ph.d

Friday, November 04, 2016 @ 9:13 PM

T. Charles Brantley Ph.d is one of Connecticut's prolific author on the subject of Intimacy, Relationship and Theology with 21 books // 3,354 page // 785,669 words. 2016 he was ranked the number one published author with titles at Outskirtpress.com.

On July 2013 he was the featured relationship expert for the National Syndicated Bill Cunningham Show. He is a heard on Hot 93.7FM Hartford, Connecticut (Connecticut Number 1 Hip Hop Station) with DJ Buck, Nancy Barrow and Joey F every other Thursday as their relationship expert. In addition he is a relationship expert for ABC Channel 8 (CT Style). Dr. T. Charles Brantley is a frequent guest of WIHS 104.9 FM Middletown, Connecticut "Bread of Life".

Dr. T. Charles Brantley is a marriage counselor who founded Strong Marriages (the new S&M). With the goal of restoring and saving marriages in all aspects and assisting couples from living together to walking down the aisle in Holy Matrimony.

Dr. T. Charles Brantley is fully accredited by the International Board of Christian Counselors as a Board Certified Pastoral Counselor by the American Association of Christian Counselors. He has a Diploma in Biblical Counseling from American Association of Christian Counselors. Dr. Brantley received a certificate for Emotionally Focused CouplesTherapy. In addition he is a certified Professional Marriage Coach and Professional Marriage Mentor with the American Association of Christian Counselors.

Book Signing

Friday, November 04, 2016 @ 9:10 PM

11/4/2016 - Book Signing at 1575 Thomaston Avenue Waterbury - 1 - 3Pm

11/9/2016 - CT Style Channel 8 - 9am

11/10/2016 - Hot 93.7FM Radio - 7:40am - 8:40am

Wednesday, November 02, 2016

How Career Counselors May Help Young Widows Seeking Career Reentry

Wednesday, November 02, 2016 @ 3:51 PM

Although the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS) March 2011 data indicate that the majority of women participate in the labor force, 29.1 percent of women with children under 18 years of age and 35.8 percent of women with children under 6 years old do not (BLS, 2013). Additionally, the BLS data reflect that 81.6 percent of widows did not participate in the labor force (BLS, 2013). Young widows, similar to other career reentry women, are more likely to have opted out of the labor force to care for young children. Unlike other reentry women, young widows are more likely to have left the workforce to care for their late husbands. The unemployed young widows more likely need to immediately reenter the paid workforce to meet their household and family financial obligations than older widows and married reentry women. These statistics reveal the significance of developing decision-making models and interventions for employment counselors working with young widows considering workforce reentry.

The mental health professional fails to consider referring a young widow (defined as under 50 traditionally) for career or employment counseling, instead focusing on Grief Counseling. It is important to also consider and lay out how career counseling may support the unemployed young widow, who has by choice or by force, found herself now in a position to support herself and possibly her family.

Recent research suggests numerous interventions for employment counselors working with reentry women that are equally relevant for reentry young widows. Employment counselors may support reentry young widows in the following ways:

* Career counseling would support women with the choice to opt out and remain at home to rear children, through reframing the stay-at-home choice as a career with its own skills, talents, and goals, as a way to challenge the external pressures of devaluing unpaid work (Ronzio, 2012).

* The career counselor would refer women for untreated mental health and complex bereavement issues, since one or both will impact their ability to be adaptive and open to the decision-making and job entry process, implement interventions, and be successful in a new paid or unpaid position or training program (Ronzio, 2012).

* Career counseling specifically supports single-parent women by providing information about reputable and affordable childcare options (Coogan & Chen, 2007).

* Career counseling supports women by providing referral information about bereavement and mental health counseling, financial and legal support services, and encourage women to attend to their own physical health needs (via medical check-up, exercise).

* Career counseling assists reenty women to form realistic expectations on returning to the workplace and the job search. Chae relayed that reentry women face lower earning potential, and discrimination and prejudice in the workplace based on their gender and usually older age (Chae, 2007). Ronzio suggested preparing women for the time and effort the job search may take, and the rejections (Ronzio, 2012). Coogan and Chen suggested “educating women about the impact of early gender-role orientation” (2007, 199), and teaching them strategies to overcome these issues (Coogan & Chen, 2007).

* Career counseling assists women in raising their aspirations on the return to work given research suggests that reentry women have lower levels of aspiration. Chae suggests that counselors may achieve this by reinforcing positive feelings about their self-worth (Chae, 2007).

* Career counseling supports women balancing life roles in her reentry process, through helping clients “define and priorities the dimension of each role and search for more optimal role combinations in order to achieve balance in life (Coogan & Chen, 2007).

* Career counseling supports women in enhancing a sense of self-efficacy and self-concept in various roles, career choice, and decision-making (Chae, 2007; Coogan & Chen, 2007). Chae suggest mentoring the client as a role model, job coach, and adviser (Chae, 2007). Coogan and Chen suggested women build the following coping skills to build self-efficacy: negotiation skills, access roles models and mentorship, eliminating unsupportive relationships (Coogan & Chen, 2007).

* Career counseling supports women coping with existential and identity concerns during a time of career transition through: asking existential questions, discussing ways to reevaluate the meaning of unemployment, focus on their accomplishments, suggesting ways to maintain generativity while unemployed and prior to returning to the workforce (Ronzio, 2012).

* Career counseling supports women overcoming anxiety and resistance to change through “reframing uncertainty as a new experience and an opportunity for growth” (Ronzio, 2012, 77).

* Career counseling facilitates resilience through exercises, such as encouraging clients to write down times they were successful and enjoyed themselves, and probing what factors enabled them to accomplish a goal (Ronzio, 2012).

In summary, there are numerous reasons for young widows to seek career counseling, in addition to grief counseling. A trained counselor, such as myself and others in the counseling profession, are able to support your career reentry goals and work on barriers you face.

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Monday, October 31, 2016

The Couple's Transition to Illness

Monday, October 31, 2016 @ 9:21 PM

Christina Schultz, MA, Resident in Counseling, New Directions Counseling Group, is offering a seminar to help support four couples facing the diagnosis and treatment of chronic and/or severe illnesses. This dyadic transition to illness program combines research findings from couples facing cancer and other illnesses, and techniques from The Gottman Method, Emotion-Focused Therapy, and Acceptance and Commitment (ACT) Therapy.

The goal of this workshop is to help the couple build resilience, improve their relationship, and manage living with uncertainty. Couples have a chance to strengthen their relationship, increase their perspective-taking, and normalize their experiences with others who can truly relate.

Christian Remarriage Program for the Divorced and Widowed

Monday, October 31, 2016 @ 9:17 PM

This 8 class program was developed by Christina M. Schultz, Resident in Counseling, New Directions Counseling Group, to support four engaged couples who have at least one partner who was widowed and/or divorced, to examine and assess what continuing bonds, expectations, communication patterns, and guidelines you each bring to your future marriage. This program will also have you communicate more about step parenting, future children together, faith-based values, financial and estate plans and expectations, attachments to former or late in-laws, attachments to former or deceased spouses, and processing grief and/or shame due to remarriage, widow/erhood, and divorce.

The ultimate goals of this program is to help prepare you for remarriage, assess your remarriage readiness and compatibility, and to identify areas of strength and vulnerability you each bring to the relationship.

This program, developed by Christina Schultz, integrates materials from Catholic Remarriage: Workbook for Couples (2005) by Anthony Garascia, Getting Ready for Marriage Workbook (1992) by Jerry D. Hardin and Dianne C. Sloan, the Gottman Method, and Remarriage research on both remarriage after divorce and widow/erhood.

Limited to 4 Couples. Cost is $300 per couple for the whole program.

Christian-Based Marriage Enrichment Program

Monday, October 31, 2016 @ 9:08 PM

I am offering a 12-session weekly marriage enrichment seminar to support up to four Christian married couples looking to improve their marriage. This Christian marriage enrichment program, based on the “Partners on the Journey” program, by Dr. Paul T. Ceasar, Ed.D. and Darryl Ducote, L.C.S.W., combines Christian theology principles and evidenced-based research findings from The Gottman Institute. Participants have a chance to benefit by learning improved communication and conflict resolution skills, and strengthening their spiritual lives and friendship. Couples also have a chance to increase their perspective-taking and normalize their experiences with others who can truly relate.

The ticket price includes all 12 sessions at a cost of $30 per session per couple.
$360 for 12 weeks of experiential in-class and outside of class exercises! This is a great deal, when you consider couples counseling typically costs at least $100 per session!

Saturday, October 29, 2016

Am I Depressed?

Saturday, October 29, 2016 @ 12:36 PM

Are you sometimes feeling a sadness that seems to hang on no matter where you are or what you’re doing? All of us go through down times but for some of us these times are longer and deeper than most.

There is hope. You don't have to suffer

Here are three steps you can take to start your journey towards freedom from depression

Step One: Acknowledge it

Prolong sadness and feelings of hopelessness don’t need to be a “normal” part of your life. If you are unsure if you are depressed then take the brief confidential survey at the bottom of the page.

Step Two: Be willing to Accept Help

This is the hardest step for many of us. We may admit to ourselves or even those closest to us that we are suffering but then we don’t let anyone help us. There really is a way to feel better … Believe it!

Step Three: Reach Out

Take the bold step of reaching out to a caring, compassionate and skilled counselor who is trained to get you on the road to wellness. Counseling is like having a coach who is fully dedicated to help you experience your ultimate wellness.

We at Total Wellness Resource Center want to be your partner for attaining Total Wellness in Mind, Body, Spirit and Vocation. Our competent, compassionate staff are ready to help you take your next step toward Total Wellness.

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

My Kid? Misbehave at school?

Wednesday, October 26, 2016 @ 10:22 AM

Driving home can be a very anxiety inducing project. And answering the phone during the day can be as well. “Mrs. Smith, I just wanted to let you know that Freddy chose to come to the office again. He is having trouble keeping his hands to himself.”

These kinds of things happen every year, to many people. But when they happen to you, sometimes it is difficult to know what to do. Let’s go over a few tips that will help you determine if this is something that a great parent like you can take care of, or if a professional may be needed instead.
Teacher’s don’t usually call the first 2 weeks of school, do they?

Review your routine in your head or with your parenting partner. Are your children getting enough sleep? Studies show that getting even 15 minutes more sleep a day can make major differences in all areas of children’s lives. Children need at least 10 hours of sleep per night until around puberty and then they need 9 and ½ hours after that. Once we are adults, we can make do with 8 hours, but many of us need more like 9 still.
Review your child’s eating habits. Are they getting hungry during the day? Do they eat a good breakfast with protein and fruit? After school, are they grumpy because they are hungry? Talk to them about what they are eating for lunch and snacks at school. It may be that you have provided a great lunch through the school or in a lunch box, but they aren’t eating any of it for some reason.
Review your child. Is this behavior surprising? Out of character? Or is it consistent with who they have been their whole life? It is important to realize that some personality, learning and social differences make school more difficult for some children.
Review your life at the moment. Did a pet die recently? Have you moved? Is there conflict or tension in a relationship around them? These types of experiences can be very difficult for a child to understand but talking to a trusted adult can help normalize their feelings and express them more appropriately.
Talk to your child. Listen for feelings of stress, anxiety, worry, or shame. These can be overwhelming emotions that children will need help working through and assisting, coaching them through them is important.

After you and your parenting partner have talked about these 5 areas, work on the things you can control: the routine, the nutrition, the quality time with your child. If the teacher continues to have concerns or difficulties, calling a professional may be necessary. The school counselor may recommend a doctor, occupational therapist, or a mental health counselor. Listen to their advice, but keep in mind they do not know your child and family like you do. You may decide that one type of professional is a better fit than the other, especially once you meet with one.

Typically, a mental health therapist specializing in your child’s age group is a good first step. Your first visit will be with the therapist without your child so they can help you create a better understanding of what is going on with your child. Once that understanding is reached, a preliminary treatment plan of either support for you and the interventions you can do or face to face treatment between your child and the therapist can begin. This may or may not involve the school and can best be determined on a case by case basis. Many times, a therapist will request information from the school about what is going on there, either through a phone call or through a behavior checklist like the Child Behavior CheckList from Achenbach.

See yourself in this article? Need to check that you are on the right track? Give us a call at 940-222-8703 ext 700. I can help you determine what your next step may be. Our therapists have worked with people from all ages and walks of life and are connected to many of the service providers in our area. Don’t feel alone, let us help you make stronger children, stronger families, and a stronger community.

Christy Graham is the head cheerleader of Acorn Counseling Education Services. She has 3 children and likes to say she has been working with children and families since the last century. She and her husband have lived in Denton, Texas since 2001. She is a registered play therapist and a licensed professional counselor supervisor.