How is your Communication Quotient? How good is your communication with your staff, coworkers parents, kids and spouse? Answering these following questions may help you determine how you’re doing in leadership and life.
1. Do you own your statements? In other words are you talking about how you feel or perceive the situation rather than stating everything as a fact?
2. Are you making other people responsible for how you think and how you feel? This is frequently called blaming and shaming.
3. Do you believe that other people are responsible FOR you, your feelings or your life?
4. Do you believe that you are responsible FOR other people, their feelings, or their life?
5. Do you know in which ways you are responsible TO other people?
6. Are you good at listening and really good at hearing what other people feel and perceive?
7. Are you getting accountability and feedback about how you come across to other people?
8. How are you at slowing down anger in yourself and others?
9. How might your attachment and entitlement issues be affecting your relationships and communication with others?
10. Are you communicating from one up or one down position to other people thus being intimidated by them or intimidating them?
If you’re having trouble answering these questions, it may mean your CQ is not the best it could be. Reach out and ask for help and feedback from friends, a counselor or a coach. Remember Scriptures admonition: My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry- James 1:19
