About
I provide virtual therapy for people in California, Florida, and South Carolina.
More than anything, you want to save your relationship. You’ve been together for a long time and just want to be able to talk to each other without it turning into a fight every time. You feel disconnected from each other. You feel like you and your partner can’t even talk about simple stuff because you always disagree. Or worse yet, you’ve stopped listening to each other, or maybe even stopped caring. You feel like you and your partner are just roommates, instead of soulmates. You feel like it’s easier to just avoid each other, than run the risk of another hurtful argument. And you feel lonely, even though you share a home.
In a down to earth way, I will teach you how to really listen to each other, using Reflective Listening and "I" Statements, how to create healthy boundaries in the relationship, how to have difficult conversations & fight fairly, and how to maintain a healthy relationship, using a semi-structured "family meeting". Together we will practice these new skills in session, until they become almost second nature.
I also work with individuals on issues of stress & anxiety, self-esteem, perfectionism & imposter syndrome. Sometimes anxiety and perfectionism actually get in your way. It stops you from doing things because you’re afraid it won’t be perfect, it won’t be your best. Do you feel like nothing you do is good enough? Chances are that you’ve felt that way for so long, you’ve come to believe it yourself.
Whether you’re a young person just entering the world after college or a seasoned adult, changing careers, getting married, starting, and family, or becoming empty-nesters, transitions can be difficult. They are full of the unknown and often add a ton of extra stress to your already stressful life. Let’s face it, adulting is hard! I can work with you through your life transitions.
Do you sometimes wish you could learn how to better communicate and get your point across, without being angry or hostile? Or do you wish you were better at sharing your ideas, your opinions, and your feelings, instead of just being a doormat and letting other people walk all over you? Communication is something we all do, so it’s something we can all improve on. We can talk about different ways you can make your point, depending on your audience, using tried and true techniques.
I do this work because I enjoy helping people get out of their own way and become the person they were meant to be.
I am a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with over 25 years of experience working with individuals, couples, families, and children.
I provide client-center, solution-focused therapy to individuals, couples, and families.
I received my Master’s degree at Trinity College of Graduate Studies in Anaheim, CA, and my Bachelor’s degree from Biola University in La Mirada, CA.
Mustard Seed Counseling is a counseling practice that provides professional psychotherapy services to anyone looking for counseling. My services are exclusively provided through a secure online video/telephone platform.
I honor where clients are on their spiritual journey and integrate spirituality whenever it is welcomed by clients.
Clients who work with me appreciate my attentiveness, responsiveness, insight, humor & my down to earth approach. I offer evening and Friday appointments for your convenience. My rates are $175 per 50 minute session for individuals and $200 per 50 minute session for couples. To schedule a free 15 minute consult, click here https://calendly.com/bdmillslmft.
My Christian Faith and My Professional Practice
I made the decision to become a Christian when I was 3 years old. I was raised in a strong Christian family and grew up in church. My relationship with Christ has always played an important role in my life, although I'll admit to having ups and downs in my Christian walk throughout the years.
In 8th grade, it became clear to me that my calling was to become a therapist. And from that point on, I set out to achieve that goal. In 2014, I earned my California Marriage & Family Therapist license.
In 2011, during a particularly intense church service, I felt God clearly tell me that He wanted me to serve fellow believers with the issues they struggle with, infusing Christan beliefs into the sessions to support others.
In my practice, I seek to meet people where they are and support them at the level that they are comfortable with.