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Thursday, January 23, 2020

A Gentler Approach toward Communication/ Conflict Resolution

Thursday, January 23, 2020 @ 11:53 AM

In Christian teachings in the New Testament James 3: 5-10 NIV describes the tongue as being like the rudder which can steer a ship and also likens it to a small spark that can set the whole forest on fire. The tongue can be a source of encouragement or used to cuss at another individual. Scripture further states the difficulty of taming the tongue. I believe that effective communication should not only be addressed psychologically but also from a spiritual perspective. John Gottman Ph.D. (the Gottman Institute) teaches about the 4 apocalyptic horseman that can lead over time to the destruction of a marriage – they are Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling. Sometimes it is hard to listen without becoming reactive when our spouse/significant other is throwing “slings and arrows at us”. If we can pause in responding to another and with purpose and intent avoid reacting to the other or becoming defensive and instead just try to actively listen to what the other person is saying this is a good start in changing a communication pattern. Think of every derogatory word and every negative emotion that is expressed as having a strong negative “energy”. That energy and intensity can cause very real harm not only to the relationship but even can weaken a person’s immune system. If a couple is involved in venting at the other and not finding a way to listen to one another they only cause further damage to the relationship. One or the other individuals (or hopefully both people) must take the first step of beginning to actively listen to one another without reacting or venting toward the other. In therapy I teach a gentler way that couples can learn to respond to one another without their interaction causing further damage to the relationship. It is often beneficial to work in individual therapy to work through the intensity of built up emotional triggers and help them diffuse those triggers before actually beginning the work involved in couple’s therapy. In my opinion it is counterproductive in a therapy process if a couple comes into a session with a high degree of reactivity toward one another and the therapist just allows them to vent at one another. Rather, the therapist must teach the couple a different way to respond to one another for therapy to be successful.

Tuesday, January 7, 2020

Grand Opening

Tuesday, January 7, 2020 @ 4:42 PM

GRAND OPENING: Celebrate A New Life at TruVida, a Christian Residential Addiction Treatment Center, launches Program For Drug Rehab in a Safe and Nurturing Community
Celebrate A New Life, a California faith based Christian Drug Rehab Program at TruVida, provides healing and recovery services for clients.

This new estate will allow Celebrate A New Life to treat 32 adults at any given time...for drug and alcohol rehab.

LAKE FOREST, Calif., January 01, 2020 /PRNewswire/ -- This month, Celebrate A New Life announced the opening of TruVida's residential drug treatment retreat. Celebrate A New Life's Director of Admissions, Robert (Bobby) Nicholl reports that TruVida is preparing additional homes to welcome additional clients looking for a serene setting to start their journey to recovery. Mr. Nicholl adds: "There are many clients who seek treatment at a Christian drug rehab, but they look for a certain type of environment for drug rehab.

Compassion, care, and genuine concern means the world to our clients.
Compassion, care, and genuine concern means the world to our clients.
The new residential properties are located in the Laguna Hills of Orange County, California. The estate is gated and features a tranquil backyard with lush gardens and built in barbeques, pool and spa. "When we previewed homes we looked for those that offer wonderful living space and a peaceful setting that can dovetail with our course of faith based treatment," reports Mr. Nicholl, "These properties meet all of our standards and we are looking forward to welcoming our first clients to our new homes."

Celebrate A New Life gladly invites inquiries from family members and future clients. We are happy to explain our services and our faith based treatment approach, incorporating 12 step programs, therapeutic workshops, individual psychotherapy, group therapy, family therapy, spiritual counseling, physical fitness, cognitive behavioral therapy, and more. "Our Christian treatment center professionals creates each client's therapeutic plan according to their addiction history, physical health, mental health and spiritual needs," says Bobby Nicholl.

About Celebrate A New Life: Celebrate A New Life is a Christian Residential Drug Rehab and Alcohol Treatment Program, located in the coastal communities of Orange County Southern California. As an integrated component of one of the very best treatment facilities and drug rehab programs in the United States, Celebrate A New Life culminates a Biblical Christ centered approach to healing, restoration, and reconciliation to God, family, and to one's own dignity and self-worth. Celebrate a New Life offers 30-60-90 day programs in a comfortable safe ocean environment. If you or a family member is in need of help call toll-free (800) 631-7753
24 hours a day seven days per week.