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Wednesday, February 13, 2019

Powerful Play Parenting Group

Wednesday, February 13, 2019 @ 12:06 PM

Powerful Play Parenting Group will start on Monday, March 18th at 7:00 PM. This group will meet every Monday from 7:00 PM to 8:00 PM. For more information on group, please feel free to go to my website www.CompassionateCounselingLLC.org where you will find a flyer for the group. Please let me know if you have any questions. Thank you!

Thursday, February 7, 2019

Learning to Love Yourself

Thursday, February 7, 2019 @ 12:30 PM

There is something about this picture that speaks to me. I see a person who knows who she is, and can accept herself including her imperfections. What if we could all be that way? What if we could all accept ourselves and love ourselves unconditionally, the way Christ loves us? What if we could quit beating ourselves up for all the mistakes we have made? What if we could stop obsessing over just one bad move we’ve made? What if we can stop judging ourselves and start treating ourselves like we treat our best friend? Can you imagine the positive difference that would make? Not only for us, but also for those around us.

ARE YOU AS KIND TO YOURSELF AS YOU ARE TO OTHERS?

More often than not, we can be exceptionally hard on ourselves. We say things to ourselves we would never say to someone we care about, or even a stranger. Yet, we don’t hesitate to tell ourselves:

“I’m so stupid.”
“How could I have been so dumb.”
“I’m fat.”
“I’m ugly.”
“I’m a failure.”

If this sounds familiar, then maybe you need to start to re-examine how you treat yourself. If you are telling yourself things you wouldn’t say to your best friend, then it’s time to start learning self-compassion. (If you are not familiar with self-compassion, then I recommend you read my earlier blog on self-compassion here.) One of the best ways to begin learning self-compassion is to recognize your judgmental negative self-talk, and start replacing those thoughts with positive or compassionate thoughts, such as:

“I’m not perfect, and I don’t have to be. The cross covers my sins and mistakes.”
“I recognize that I am suffering right now.”
“I love the person God created me to be.”
“I make mistakes, and my mistakes don’t define me.”

If you find that you are having trouble telling yourself compassionate thoughts like in the examples above, you may be depressed or at risk of depression. When we walk around with guilt and shame, constantly beating ourselves up, we have an increased risk for depression and/or substance abuse leading to disruption in our relationships, work or school performance, and overall sense of peace and being. That’s when it is time to get help. Through self-compassion, you can learn to let go of your mistakes, learn to forgive yourself, and begin to treat yourself with the same tender kindness you give to your best friend.

*Gretchen is currently accepting new clients. If you are in the San Diego area and are in need of services, please call her for a free 15 minute phone consultation at 619-272-6858 ext 713