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How many of us have experienced a panic attack? Well it turns out A LOT. Panic disorders affects 6 million adults, or 2.7% of the U.S. population and women are twice as likely to be affected as men. And that does not include those of us who have only experienced a panic attack once or twice. And if you are one of those who have experienced a panic attack you know how horrible and sometimes scary it can be. But what you do about it can be the difference between it being a one time event and turning into a full blown panic disorder that continues to get worse and may really begin to effect you living your life.

Unfortunately what a lot of us do when we start to experience the beginnings of a panic attack just make it worse. We may try to ignore it at first. Then when we are unable to ignore it we begin to tell ourselves some pretty unhelpful things...like "oh no what is happening to me?", "I'm going to freak out in front of others", "people are going to think I am weird or crazy", "I'm going to faint", "I'm going to have a heart attack" (make sure you check with your doctor if you think this is a possibility), etc. All these things increase our fears and continue to get those hormones racing through our bloodstream even more (it's really interesting how thoughts can do that). And before we know it we are in a full blown panic attack.

So what can we do? Turns out it is pretty simple. I'm going to share with you the 6 step approach that I teach all my anxiety clients that works wonderfully. Some clients have success after one try with this approach others have to practice this more often to completely get rid of their panic attacks.
6 Steps to end the attack

First get yourself some index cards. On the first index card write the bold words of the 6 steps. The other cards are for steps 4 and 5.

1. Accept. Recognize your body symptoms. Get in the habit of being aware of the signals your body is sending you. The key here is catch it before it has gone too far. To try to nip it in the bud so to speak. Are you noticing your breathing getting faster, is face flushed, are your thoughts racing, is there a tightness in your chest or throat, are your muscles tight. Once your recognize the symptoms don't try to push them away. Accept them.

2. Permission. Give yourself permission to be anxious. Tell yourself it is OK to be anxious and it will go away. Don't scare yourself with all kinds of negative thoughts. Let yourself go with the anxiety again not pushing it away.

3. Breathe. Deep breathing for one minute. This is critical and probably one of the most important things to do. If you can't remember any of the other steps do this one. Make sure you slow your breathing down and breathe deep. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Count to 4 in and 6 out holding the breath for a count of 2. Count by 1000s. That will force you to slow down your breathing. Look at a second hand of a watch or set a timer on your phone for 60 seconds.

4. Inner Dialogue. Truthful, positive statements. Do this one ahead of time, don't wait until you are in a panic attack because you won't be able to think. Use a couple of the index cards and write down some positive statements about yourself or about the anxiety itself. Here are some examples: "This will not kill me" "I will be OK" "It will pass" "I have coped before" "This is teaching me patience" "It's just anxiety" "This is my body's way of telling me I need to pay attention and slow down" "I am a capable person". Carry your cards with you so that you can pull them out and look at them often and especially if you start to have a panic attack. Have at least 3 positive statements to tell yourself.

5. Distract. Do something to release the energy. Use some more index cards here. Again have 3 ideas of things you can do to release the energy of the panic. Think of things that will use some energy to temporarily distract you while your hormones dissipate in your body and you calm down. Watching tv or reading a book is probably not the best choice. You could go for a walk or a run, clean your house or a closet, play a sport, or you could take a bath or shower, put a cold compress on your head or neck. Anything that will either use some of the adrenaline or calm you down.

6. Let time pass. It will go away. Finally, it will pass. Give it some time to pass. Especially if the panic attack is full blown it will take your body some time to allow all the chemicals it has released to finish clearing out of your system. So go easy on yourself and allow your body to reset.

OK there you go. Good luck on your journey of freedom from panic attacks. And for more help I use a 15 lesson program to work through the anxiety and usually accompanying depression that is very effective.

So call for an appointment to finally put an end to your anxiety and depression. 928-232-9280. I can take clients from anywhere in the state of Arizona with online and phone sessions.

As Christian therapists, we often work with individuals who feel conflicted about setting boundaries. Many Christians are taught that loving others means constantly giving, staying quiet, or putting others first—even to their own emotional detriment. But in both scripture and psychology, we find that healthy boundaries are essential for emotional health, spiritual growth, and thriving relationships.
In Galatians 6:2–5, we’re called to “carry each other’s burdens” but also reminded that “each one should carry their own load.” In Christian counseling, we use this biblical wisdom to help clients understand the difference between supporting someone in crisis and taking responsibility for things that aren’t ours to carry. Without healthy boundaries, we risk resentment, burnout, and emotional exhaustion—none of which reflect the peace God desires for us.
From a clinical perspective, poor boundaries often stem from childhood trauma, people-pleasing, or growing up in a family system where love had to be earned. Over time, these patterns can lead to anxiety, codependency, or depression. As faith-based therapists, we help clients identify these patterns, rebuild their identity in Christ, and learn practical skills to communicate limits with confidence and compassion.
Jesus modeled healthy boundaries throughout His ministry—He took time to rest (Luke 5:16), didn’t meet everyone’s demands (John 11), and set clear expectations in relationships. Setting boundaries isn't selfish—it’s a form of self-stewardship that allows us to love others without losing our emotional, spiritual, and physical health.
In Christian therapy, you’ll learn how to create relationships rooted in truth, trust, and mutual respect—while keeping your faith at the center. Loving others well means showing up as your full self, not disappearing for the sake of peace.

How is your Communication Quotient? How good is your communication with your staff, coworkers parents, kids and spouse? Answering these following questions may help you determine how you’re doing in leadership and life.

1. Do you own your statements? In other words are you talking about how you feel or perceive the situation rather than stating everything as a fact?

2. Are you making other people responsible for how you think and how you feel? This is frequently called blaming and shaming.

3. Do you believe that other people are responsible FOR you, your feelings or your life?

4. Do you believe that you are responsible FOR other people, their feelings, or their life?

5. Do you know in which ways you are responsible TO other people?

6. Are you good at listening and really good at hearing what other people feel and perceive?

7. Are you getting accountability and feedback about how you come across to other people?

8. How are you at slowing down anger in yourself and others?

9. How might your attachment and entitlement issues be affecting your relationships and communication with others?

10. Are you communicating from one up or one down position to other people thus being intimidated by them or intimidating them?


If you’re having trouble answering these questions, it may mean your CQ is not the best it could be. Reach out and ask for help and feedback from friends, a counselor or a coach. Remember Scriptures admonition: My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry- James 1:19

For many women, particularly highly sensitive empaths, stepping into entrepreneurship can feel like an uphill battle. The journey is often tangled with deep-seated patterns of shame, codependency, and victimization—especially for those who’ve endured narcissistic abuse or complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). These wounds can make you question your worth, hesitate to show up fully, or feel like you need external validation to move forward. But what if running an empowered business wasn’t about waiting to be “ready” or perfect? What if it’s about owning your healing journey, embracing your inherent worth, and trusting God’s divine plan for your life?

As someone who’s navigated CPTSD, borderline personality disorder traits, and the profound loss of my mother to cancer, I’ve learned that sovereignty in business, health, and wealth comes from healing core wounds, releasing victimhood, and aligning with God’s will. My path wasn’t linear—it was messy, raw, and deeply spiritual. In this guide, I’ll share how you, as a rising feminine and empowered empath, can build a soul-aligned business by healing trauma, regulating emotions, and trusting in divine purpose.

Understanding the Roots of Your Hesitation

Empaths often feel an instinctive pull to hide, afraid to fully show up in their business or personal lives. I lived this for years, trapped by shame and the fear of not being “good enough.” This hesitation stemmed from codependency, where I sought approval from others, and CPTSD, which kept me in survival mode, projecting powerlessness onto external forces like money, business, or societal structures such as the patriarchy. These patterns aren’t your identity—they’re survival mechanisms forged in response to trauma, often from narcissistic abuse or dysfunctional relationships.

For me, the fear of being seen was tied to early experiences where my sensitivity was shamed, and later, to the pain of losing my mother. I used to think I needed to wait for permission to step into my calling, but I realized that waiting was just another layer of victimhood. Healing begins when you acknowledge these patterns without judgment and recognize that your story—every painful, beautiful part—is what makes you uniquely qualified to serve.

Actionable Step: Reflect on Your Story

Take 15 minutes to journal about your journey. What traumas or patterns—like shame, codependency, or fear of failure—have held you back from fully showing up in business? How have these shown up in your relationship with money or success? Write without judgment, knowing these experiences are part of your path. For deeper exploration, consider connecting with a trauma-informed therapist through Psychology Today.

Healing Core Wounds to Reclaim Your Power

Building an empowered business starts with healing the emotional and spiritual wounds that keep you playing small. My turning point came through grieving my mother’s death and understanding how her journey intertwined with mine. Her illness and passing taught me to surrender to God’s will—not as a loss of control, but as an act of trust in a divine plan. This surrender helped me heal layers of victimization, codependency, and CPTSD, allowing me to step into sovereignty.

Here’s how you can begin healing:

Regulate Your Emotions: Trauma, especially from narcissistic abuse, can leave your nervous system in a constant state of fight, flight, or freeze. Practices like somatic experiencing or mindfulness, as outlined by Mayo Clinic, can help calm your nervous system. I found that naming my emotions—fear, shame, anger—in a journal or with a trusted guide allowed me to process them without being overwhelmed.
Release Shame and Fear: Shame often stems from internalizing messages like “you’re too much” or “you’re not enough.” Working with a trauma-informed therapist or using journaling prompts from GoodTherapy can help you identify and release these beliefs. For me, recognizing that my worth comes from God, not external validation, was a game-changer.
Heal Codependency and Victimhood: Codependency showed up in my life as seeking approval from others, even in business decisions. Healing meant setting boundaries, prioritizing my needs, and letting go of enabling behaviors. Resources like NAMI offer insights on breaking codependent patterns and reclaiming personal power.
Embrace God’s Will: As a Christian, aligning with God’s plan brought me peace. Prayer, meditation, or reflective journaling helped me trust that my pain and healing had a purpose. Surrendering to God’s will meant accepting my mother’s passing as part of a larger plan, which freed me to focus on my own growth.
Actionable Step: Create a Healing Practice

Dedicate 10 minutes daily to a somatic practice, like deep breathing or body scanning, to regulate your nervous system. Pair this with a prayer or affirmation, such as “I am worthy, and God’s plan is unfolding through me.” Track how this shifts your energy over two weeks.

Letting Go of Victimhood in Business and Money

One of the biggest barriers to an empowered business is projecting victimhood onto external systems—money, business, or societal structures like the patriarchy. I used to feel powerless, as if I needed permission to succeed or was at the mercy of these forces. This was rooted in unhealed trauma and codependency, where I gave away my power, waiting for validation to feel “good enough.”

Reclaiming sovereignty means recognizing your inherent worth and letting go of these projections. For me, this shift happened when I stopped waiting for perfection and owned my journey—CPTSD, codependency, and all. I didn’t need to share every detail of my life, like my mother’s cancer battle, in one course. Instead, I focused on the foundational healing that got me here: regulating emotions, setting boundaries, and trusting God’s plan.

In business, this looks like:

Owning Your Offer: Your healing journey is your unique offering. You don’t need to package your entire life into one product. Start with something simple, like a weekly coaching call or a short course on emotional regulation, and trust that it’s enough. Entrepreneur offers practical tips for launching small and scaling confidently.
Releasing Perfectionism: Waiting to be “ready” is a trauma response. Launch your offering imperfectly, knowing that progress attracts the right clients. Your authenticity is your strength.
Trusting Divine Timing: As a Christian, I believe God has a plan for who you serve. The right clients will find you when you show up authentically, eliminating the need to chase or prove yourself.
Actionable Step: Define Your Core Offering

Write down one core offering based on your healing journey—perhaps a coaching session on setting boundaries or a workshop on overcoming shame. Keep it authentic and simple, trusting that God will guide the right people to you.

Aligning Health, Wealth, and Purpose

Health and wealth creation are deeply connected, especially for empaths. My journey to sovereignty—physically, emotionally, and financially—was shaped by healing trauma and aligning with God’s will. For example, adopting a ketogenic diet balanced my hormones and eliminated bloating, giving me the energy to show up fully in my business. Healing CPTSD and codependency freed me from emotional drains, allowing me to invest in wealth-building with confidence.

Your business can reflect this alignment by:

Prioritizing Self-Care: A healthy body and mind fuel your business. Explore practices like keto, mindfulness, or yoga, and consult a nutritionist via Healthline to tailor them to your needs.
Building Wealth with Integrity: Wealth is about creating a life of purpose. Invest in tools, like business courses from your Christian community, that align with your values. Forbes offers insights on ethical entrepreneurship.
Serving from Abundance: When you heal victimhood and trust God’s plan, you serve from abundance, not scarcity, attracting clients who resonate with your mission.
Actionable Step: Integrate Health and Wealth Goals

Create a weekly plan balancing self-care (e.g., a somatic practice or healthy meal prep) with one business action (e.g., posting on social media or outlining a course). This reinforces the link between health and wealth.

Surrendering to God’s Plan for Your Business

The most transformative part of my journey was surrendering to God’s will. Losing my mother taught me that healing and life unfold according to a divine plan, even when it’s painful. This surrender didn’t mean giving up—it meant trusting that my pain, healing, and business all have a purpose. As an empath, your sensitivity is a gift, accelerating your spiritual growth and ability to serve others. By sharing your journey authentically, you invite others to heal, too.

In my Christian community, I’ve found business tools that complement my spiritual approach, like creating courses or coaching frameworks. My offering isn’t about perfection—it’s about guiding others through the same foundational healing I experienced: regulating emotions, healing core wounds, and trusting God’s grace.

Actionable Step: Trust the Process

Spend 5 minutes daily in prayer or meditation, asking for guidance on your next business step. Trust that God’s plan will bring the right opportunities and clients. Write down any insights and act on one small step this week.

Conclusion: Stepping Into Your Sovereign Business

Running an empowered business as a rising feminine and empath is about owning your worth, healing trauma, and trusting God’s plan. Your journey—from healing codependency and CPTSD to embracing divine purpose—is your greatest asset. By regulating emotions, setting boundaries, and aligning with your spiritual calling, you can create a business that reflects your health, wealth, and purpose.

Start small, trust the process, and know that your story—however imperfect—is enough. God has a plan for who you’ll serve, and by showing up authentically, you’ll inspire others to find freedom, sovereignty, and alignment, too.

Ready to Start Your Empowered Business?

If you’re ready to heal trauma, reclaim your power, and build a soul-aligned business, consider joining a community or course that supports your growth. Explore resources like MindBodyGreen for holistic business tips or connect with a Christian business coach to integrate faith into your work. Feel free to book a free consultation today to connect and explore how you can receive support. Your journey is your offering—step into it with courage and grace.

For many empaths and survivors of narcissistic abuse, stepping into your full power in business, relationships, and life can feel like an overwhelming challenge. The weight of shame, victimhood, and self-doubt often keeps us hiding, waiting for the moment we feel "good enough" to show up. Today, I experienced a profound shift in healing deep layers of these wounds, particularly in how I relate to the masculine and my business. By confronting the pain of childhood emotional, psychological, and verbal abuse, I uncovered how these experiences shaped my fear of being seen and my tendency to perform for validation. If you’ve felt trapped by similar patterns, this guide offers actionable steps to heal from narcissistic abuse, reconnect with your true self, and build a life and business rooted in authenticity and alignment with God’s plan. Optimized for low to medium competition keywords like "healing narcissistic abuse," "overcoming shame in business," and "authentic self in relationships," this post is for anyone ready to break free and embrace their inherent worth.

Understanding the Roots of Shame and Victimhood

Narcissistic abuse—whether from a parent, partner, or authority figure—leaves deep emotional scars that can linger for years. For me, growing up with constant criticism and invalidation ("you’re not good enough," "you don’t know anything") created a core belief that I had to prove my worth. This led to patterns of victimhood and shame, especially in how I approached relationships with the masculine and my business. I carried the pain of emotional, psychological, and verbal abuse from my father, which made me hesitant to take risks or fully express myself. Instead of connecting authentically, I hid behind performance, trying to control how others perceived me to avoid rejection.

If this sounds familiar, know that these patterns are not your identity—they’re survival mechanisms developed to cope with prolonged trauma. Narcissistic abuse often leads to hypervigilance, people-pleasing, or dissociation, where you disconnect from your pain to feel safe. These behaviors can show up as avoiding risks in business, fearing criticism from clients, or expecting hurt in relationships. Healing begins by acknowledging these wounds without judgment and recognizing how they block your ability to live authentically.

Actionable Step: Set aside 10 minutes to journal about a memory where you felt invalidated or criticized. Write down the emotions—shame, fear, or hurt—and notice how they influence your actions today, whether in business decisions or personal connections. For further insight, explore Psychology Today’s guide on narcissistic abuse to understand its long-term effects.

Breaking the Cycle of Performance

One of the most profound realizations I had today was how much I relied on performance to shield myself from pain. By seeking external validation or trying to control others’ perceptions, I disconnected from my true self. This showed up as projecting victimhood onto the masculine—expecting hurt because that’s what I knew from years of abuse—and avoiding the risks of building my business. I was so used to being criticized that I approached opportunities with wounding, assuming I’d be rejected or dismissed. Performance felt like a safe armor, but it kept me from creating authentically and aligning with my purpose.

Healing from narcissistic abuse means dismantling these false structures and embracing your inherent worth. For me, this involved sitting with the pain of past abuse, grieving the years I spent hiding, and letting go of the need to manipulate how I’m perceived. By doing so, I began to connect with my deeper self, trusting that my journey—messy and imperfect—is enough. This shift allows you to create from a place of authenticity, whether you’re launching a business, marketing your services, or building relationships.

Actionable Step: Practice a somatic exercise like deep breathing or body scanning to reconnect with your body and release stored pain. The Greater Good Science Center offers mindfulness practices that can help you stay present and move away from performance-based habits. Try this for five minutes daily to ground yourself in your authentic self.

Reclaiming Power in Relationships with the Masculine

Narcissistic abuse can deeply distort how we relate to others, especially in gendered dynamics. For me, approaching the masculine with wounding—expecting hurt or rejection—was a direct result of my past. I projected my pain, assuming others would harm me because that’s what I experienced growing up. This showed up not just in personal relationships but also in my business, where I hesitated to market myself or set boundaries with clients, fearing criticism or failure.

Healing this meant owning my hurt, not closing off, but processing it so I could engage from a place of strength. It’s about recognizing that you don’t have to carry the wounds of past abuse into new interactions. By healing the shame and fear tied to those experiences, you can approach relationships—personal and professional—with confidence and clarity. This doesn’t mean everyone will align with you, but it frees you to connect authentically with those who value your true self.

Actionable Step: Reflect on a relationship (personal or professional) where you feel guarded or expect hurt. Write down one boundary you can set to protect your energy while staying open, such as declining a client’s unrealistic demand or communicating your needs clearly. For guidance on setting boundaries, check out Verywell Mind’s article on healthy boundaries.

Aligning with God’s Plan for Healing

A turning point in my healing was trusting God’s plan over my own need for control. For years, I thought I was waiting to be ready—to be good enough for business, relationships, or success. But I realized God was waiting for me to connect with myself. This shift was deeply influenced by my mother’s illness and passing, which taught me that true healing comes from surrendering to divine will. By aligning with God’s grace, I let go of the need to perform or prove myself, trusting that the right people—clients, friends, or partners—would find me.

For survivors of narcissistic abuse, this spiritual alignment can be a game-changer. It’s about knowing your worth isn’t tied to others’ approval but to your God-given purpose. This perspective helped me stop scaling my business from a place of fear and instead focus on sharing my journey authentically. Whether through prayer, meditation, or journaling, connecting to your spiritual center can guide you to release shame and step into sovereignty.

Actionable Step: Spend five minutes in prayer or meditation, asking for guidance to trust your journey. Journal any insights about how past pain might be blocking your alignment with your purpose. The Chopra Center offers guided meditations for emotional healing that can support this process.

Building a Sovereign Business as an Empath

Running a business as an empath or survivor of narcissistic abuse means letting go of perfectionism and the fear of not being liked. For me, avoiding core pain kept me from creating authentically, but healing those wounds showed me that my story—overcoming CPTSD, codependency, and shame—is enough. You don’t need to share every detail of your life, just like in dating; you only need to show up as your true self, trusting that your journey will resonate with those who need it.

This sovereignty extends to health and wealth creation. The shame from abuse can make you feel powerless around money or success, but by healing these layers, you reclaim your ability to build a thriving business. Being part of a Christian community provided me with practical business tools and spiritual support, reinforcing that my work is part of a divine plan. Whether you’re creating a course, coaching clients, or sharing your story, focus on authenticity over performance.

Actionable Step: Create a small offering—like a blog post, workshop, or social media share—based on one aspect of your healing journey. Focus on authenticity, not perfection. For business tips tailored to empaths, explore Entrepreneur’s guide to emotional intelligence.

Moving Forward with Authentic Expression

Healing from narcissistic abuse is about connecting with your true self, not performing for others. It’s about sitting with the pain, releasing the shame, and trusting that you are enough. For me, this meant letting go of the need to control perceptions and instead sharing my story of healing trauma and finding worth. It’s not about scaling a business or building relationships from fear, but from alignment with God and self.

If you’re feeling stuck, isolated, or disconnected, know that this may be a season where God is calling you to find yourself. Authentic relationships—with clients, friends, or partners—start with that connection to your true self. By healing the wounds of narcissistic abuse, you can step into your power, create a soul-aligned business, and live with the freedom of knowing you’re enough.

Call to Action: Share one part of your healing journey in the comments below or with a trusted friend. How has letting go of shame or victimhood helped you show up in your business or relationships? For more resources on healing trauma, visit The National Center for PTSD or connect with a trauma-informed therapist to support your journey. Book a free consultation here

Christian Families: How an Open-Screen Policy Can Enhance Your Relationship and Protect Your Family

What Does a Healthy Open-Screen Policy Actually Look Like?

There are many conflicting messages about cellphone usage in relationships. Some argue that your phone is your personal property and your spouse should not have access. Others advocate for complete transparency, with both partners having full access to each other’s phones, even before marriage.

Transparency builds trust, and trust is a foundational building block of any relationship. Without it, intimacy cannot fully exist. For intimacy to thrive in a marriage or serious long-term relationship, it must remain exclusive between two people. In a healthy Christian marriage, there should be no such thing as a private, secret online life.

Part of protecting a relationship is for both spouses to honor each other with their screen use. This means not engaging in private conversations with the opposite sex, not viewing pornography or lewd social media, not checking up on former partners, and being mindful of what is watched on TV or online.

Private screens often lead to secrecy and infidelity, while an open-screen policy creates accountability. Husbands should be honored to demonstrate years of clean history, and wives should also be free and proud to display their digital activities.

Wait, Isn’t This Abusive or Controlling?

No. An open-screen policy is not abusive or controlling. It should be based on mutual consent and a shared desire to build emotional safety. It must be equal. Both partners should have the same level of access and control. Both should understand how accountability software works on their devices.

This policy is not recommended in abusive relationships where one partner enforces it without the other’s consent or without reciprocating access. Consent is essential.

Often, resistance to transparency comes from a spouse who has something to hide. Claiming that openness is controlling can be a tactic to prevent accountability. Requesting full access to a spouse’s phone is acceptable in a committed relationship. Emotional safety is cultivated when couples do not have to wonder what their partner is doing in secret.

Shouldn’t We Just Trust Each Other?

Trust is central to marriage. An open device policy provides a way to actively demonstrate trustworthiness. It reassures your spouse that you are being faithful and that you are committed to protecting the relationship from external threats.

Accountability reports from your devices eliminate uncertainty and stress. An open policy strengthens trust by confirming your commitment to transparency.

This Is Where Healing Begins

For couples recovering from betrayal, openness is a key part of healing. An open-screen policy gives the betrayed partner reassurance and access to their partner’s inner world. It removes the need for secrecy, accusations, or suspicion. Emotional safety should be freely offered, not chased.

Accountability software supports this process by providing clarity, but it must be consent-based. When combined with counseling or spiritual guidance, it can open the door to deeper connection and renewed trust.

Where Do I Start?

Begin with a conversation. Discuss the benefits, limitations, and expectations of an open-screen policy. Both partners must agree. Consider allowing a short grace period for each person to clear old content or make confessions. This gives the couple a fresh start.

Accountability software such as Truple can help. It takes screenshots periodically, alerts a spouse of concerning activity, and creates a record of device use. Couples can set the frequency and choose how transparent they want their reports to be. If signing up from a desktop, feel free to use our code SOJO10 for a 10% discount off the annual fee.

Some couples also agree to inform each other when they review screenshots or why. Over time, as trust grows, frequent checking often decreases naturally.

Image-blocking browsers can further support emotional safety online. Tools like Brave or Plucky allow users to block explicit images and advertisements, protecting children and reducing temptation. These tools are especially helpful for people recovering from addiction or seeking a low-stimulation online environment.

Isn’t It a Matter of the Heart? A Word to Men, From a Man

An open device policy may feel intimidating, but secrecy is far more destructive. No man sets out wanting to be trapped by pornography, lust, or shame, yet many struggle with these cycles. Objectification may feel normal, but it is not.

An open policy is not about punishment. It creates space for freedom and healing. While accountability software will not heal lust or stop intrusive thoughts by itself, it provides the structure needed to begin overcoming temptation.

Jesus taught that if something causes you to sin, remove it. Applying this principle to devices is an act of discipline and devotion. Tools like Truple create an opportunity for men to prove faithfulness and integrity, building stronger marriages and healthier families.

Infidelity, whether online or in person, is still infidelity. Repentance requires turning away from sinful behaviors. An open policy can be the first step in proving to your spouse that you are serious about change.

What Now?

Talk with your spouse about this concept. Reflect together on what it could mean for your marriage or family. If you are ready to strengthen trust, begin implementing an open-screen policy.

If you are working to rebuild trust and need support, consider reaching out to a trusted therapist or counselor to guide the process.

You’re here because you’re ready to heal, aren’t you? Maybe you’ve walked away from a relationship that left you raw, or you’re still untangling the emotional knots from one that didn’t quite work out. If you’re navigating life with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), or even recovering from it, you know that healing isn’t just about cutting contact or setting physical boundaries. It’s about facing the emotional echoes that linger—the defensiveness, the intense reactions, the inconsistent love—that can follow you into new connections if left unchecked. Let’s talk about how you can process those past relationships, understand your patterns, and open yourself to healthier ways of relating.

Why Healing Past Relationships Matters for Your BPD Journey

Healing from a past relationship when you have BPD isn’t just about moving on; it’s about breaking cycles. You might’ve noticed how old hurts resurface, even when you’re not talking to that ex anymore. Those core issues—maybe your tendency to feel criticized too deeply or to love in a way that feels all-consuming—don’t vanish just because the person does. They can creep into new relationships, projecting old pain onto fresh situations.

For example, I once found myself hyper-fixated on keeping an ex close, pouring so much into the connection that I lost my own grounding. It wasn’t until I stepped back that I saw how my love sometimes veered into manipulation, not because I meant harm, but because I craved security. Sound familiar? If you’ve ever felt like you’re giving too much or reacting too intensely, that’s a sign there’s healing to do. By processing these patterns, you’re not just repairing the past—you’re paving the way for relationships that feel safer and more authentic.

Recognizing BPD Patterns: Defensiveness and Inconsistent Love

One of the toughest parts of BPD is how it shapes the way you love and argue. Maybe you’ve caught yourself getting defensive in arguments, like a wall shoots up the moment someone says something that stings. That defensiveness isn’t just a reaction—it’s a shield, protecting the parts of you that feel too vulnerable. But here’s the thing: it can make the other person feel unheard, unsafe, even invisible.

Or maybe you’ve noticed your love feels like a rollercoaster—intense one day, distant the next. That inconsistency often comes from not fully trusting yourself, which makes it hard to trust others. You might love bomb to strengthen a bond, only to pull back when it feels too much. These patterns aren’t your fault, but they can leave you feeling isolated, craving connection yet stuck in a cycle of pushing it away. Recognizing these tendencies is the first step to healing them.

How Defensiveness Blocks Connection

When you’re in an argument, do you feel like you’re fighting to be seen? The need to defend yourself can be so strong that it drowns out any chance of a real connection. Both you and the other person end up battling to be heard, and suddenly, no one’s listening. It’s exhausting, and it can make relationships feel lonely, even when you’re desperate to feel close.

The truth is, defensiveness often comes from old wounds—maybe a fear of abandonment or a belief that you have to fight to be valued. I’ve been there, snapping at a partner over a small comment because it felt like an attack on my worth. It wasn’t until I saw how my reaction shut down communication that I realized I was contributing to the disconnect. By noticing when you’re shutting down or escalating, you can start to pause and ask: What am I protecting? What do I need to feel safe? This kind of self-awareness is a game-changer for healing.

Taking Accountability Without Losing Yourself

Here’s where it gets tricky: healing means looking at your role in past relationships, but it’s not about blaming yourself. If you’ve ever felt like your reactions were bigger than the situation—like a harsh comment from a partner sent you spiralling into resentment or victimization—that intensity is part of BPD’s emotional lens. It doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid. You don’t deserve harshness or criticism, but you might be amplifying the pain in ways that keep you stuck.

Taking accountability isn’t about dismissing what happened to you—it’s about owning what you can control. Maybe you got defensive and shut down communication, or your love swung from all-in to distant because you were scared of losing yourself. Those patterns can make others feel unheard, just like you felt when they criticized you. I saw this when I reflected on a past relationship where my defensiveness made it hard for my partner to open up. It wasn’t all my fault, but I contributed to the disconnect. Recognizing that helped me forgive myself and move forward. You can do the same by asking: What patterns am I repeating, and how can I shift them?

Steps to Heal BPD Relationship Patterns

Healing from past relationships with BPD in mind is like untangling a knot—it takes patience, but each step loosens the grip of old patterns. Here are practical ways to start your BPD relationship recovery:

Pause and Reflect on Triggers: When you feel that familiar defensiveness rising, take a breath. Ask yourself, What’s underneath this reaction? Maybe it’s fear of abandonment or a need to feel validated. Naming the trigger helps you respond instead of react.

Own Your Part Without Shame: You don’t have to carry all the blame, but owning your role—like love bombing or escalating arguments—frees you from the cycle of victimhood. Try journaling about a past argument: What could I have done differently? For me, I realized I often made small criticisms feel like attacks, which shut down any chance of real talk.

Practice Grounded Love: BPD can make love feel like a tidal wave, overwhelming for you and your partner. Practice showing up consistently—small gestures, honest words, no ultimatums. It’s about building trust in yourself, which helps you trust others.

Let Go of Control: That urge to manipulate or cling to attachment often comes from fear. Instead of trying to secure the relationship, let it breathe. Ask yourself, Can I let this person be themselves without needing to control the outcome?

Seek Support: Healing isn’t a solo journey. A therapist or support group familiar with BPD can help you spot patterns and practice new ways of relating. Talking with someone who gets it can make all the difference.
Breaking the Cycle of Isolation

You’ve probably felt that loneliness in relationships, even when you’re with someone you love. It’s like you’re both reaching for connection, but end up isolated because you’re stuck defending your own truths. BPD can make you feel like you need the other person to complete you, but that need can pull you further from yourself.

Healing means rebuilding trust in your own heart. When you start to trust your emotions—without amplifying or suppressing them—you can show up in relationships without that desperate need for validation. It’s not about erasing the pain of past relationships; it’s about learning from it so you don’t carry it into the next one. When you notice yourself getting defensive, see it as a signal—not of failure, but of a chance to connect with your truth and the other person’s.

Embracing Vulnerability as Strength

You might think vulnerability is the last thing you want to lean into, especially after a relationship that left you feeling exposed or hurt. With BPD, opening up can feel like handing someone a map to your weaknesses. But here’s the shift: vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s courage. It’s showing up as your real self, even when you’re scared of being rejected or misunderstood.

When you hide behind defensiveness or try to control the relationship, you’re protecting old wounds, but you’re also keeping the connection at arm’s length. Think about a time you felt dismissed in a relationship. Maybe you poured your heart out, and it felt like they didn’t hear you. That pain is real, and it’s valid. But sometimes, in trying to protect yourself, you might’ve shut them out, too. I’ve been there—snapping at an ex over a small critique because it felt like an attack on my worth. Looking back, I see how my reaction closed the door to understanding. If you’ve done this too, it doesn’t make you bad—it just means you’re human, and you’re learning. Start small: next time you feel that urge to defend, try saying, I hear you, let me think about that. It’s scary, but it opens the door to connection.

Rewriting Your Relationship Story

Healing from BPD relationship patterns is like rewriting a story you’ve been telling yourself for years. Maybe it’s a story where you’re always the one who’s hurt, or where you have to fight to be seen. Those narratives come from real pain, but they don’t have to define your future. You have the power to write a new chapter—one where you love without fear, argue without spiralling, and trust yourself to handle whatever comes.

Start by noticing the stories you tell yourself about past relationships. Do you see yourself as the victim? The one who’s never enough? Write them down, then ask: Is this the full truth? Often, with BPD, emotions can amplify the narrative, making small moments feel like betrayals. For me, I used to replay arguments in my head, turning my ex’s frustration into proof I was unlovable. It wasn’t until I challenged that story—seeing how my defensiveness fueled the fire—that I could let go of the resentment. Try this: pick one memory from a past relationship that still stings. Write what happened, then write what you wish you’d done differently. This isn’t about blame; it’s about seeing where you can grow.

Practical Tools for BPD Relationship Recovery

Healing doesn’t happen in a vacuum—it takes action, even when it feels messy. Here are more tools to help you break free from old patterns and build healthier connections:

Set Healthy Boundaries: Boundaries aren’t just about keeping people out; they’re about keeping yourself safe while staying open. If you tend to overgive or love bomb, set a boundary with yourself: I’ll check in with my own needs before saying yes to everything. This helps you stay grounded instead of losing yourself in the relationship.

Practice Self-Validation: BPD can make you crave external validation, but the real game-changer is learning to validate yourself. When you feel overwhelmed, try saying, My feelings make sense, and I can handle them. This builds trust in your own emotions, so you don’t need someone else to prove your worth.

Use Mindfulness to Stay Present: Intense emotions can pull you into the past or future, replaying old fights or worrying about new ones. Try a simple mindfulness practice: focus on your breath for one minute when you feel triggered. It sounds small, but it helps you stay in the moment instead of spiralling.

Challenge the Need to Control: That urge to manipulate or cling to attachment often comes from fear of abandonment. Practice letting go by reminding yourself, I am enough, even if this doesn’t go my way. It’s not about giving up—it’s about trusting that you’re okay no matter what.

Build a Support Network: Surround yourself with people who understand BPD or are willing to learn. Whether it’s a friend, a therapist, or an online community, having people who see you can make the healing process less lonely.

Forgiving Yourself and Others

Forgiveness is tough, especially when you’re hurt. You might want an apology from someone who treated you harshly, and you deserve that accountability. But waiting for it can keep you trapped. Instead, try forgiving yourself first. Forgive the parts of you that reacted too fast, loved too hard, or pushed someone away. For me, forgiving myself for my role in a toxic dynamic—without excusing the other person’s actions—was like lifting a weight. It let me see that I wasn’t just a victim; I was someone capable of growing.

Forgiving others doesn’t mean dismissing their behaviour. It means releasing the hold their actions have on you. You don’t have to reconnect or condone what happened—just let go of the resentment that keeps you tethered to the past. This act of release is for you, so you can move forward with lighter shoulders.

Moving Toward Healthier Connections

Healing from past relationships when you have BPD isn’t about becoming perfect—it’s about becoming real. It’s about showing up as you are, flaws and all, and trusting that you’re enough without needing to control or defend. The patterns you’ve carried—like inconsistent love or defensiveness—don’t define you. They’re just habits you can change with time and care.

Imagine a relationship where you feel safe to be vulnerable, where arguments don’t spiral into isolation, where love feels steady instead of enmeshed. That’s what you’re working toward, and every step you take to heal gets you closer. It’s not about erasing your BPD or pretending the pain didn’t happen—it’s about learning to love and connect in a way that feels true to who you are now.

Your Healing Journey Starts Now

You don’t need to have all the answers today. Healing from BPD relationship patterns is a process, one that starts with small, brave choices. Maybe it’s writing down one moment where you felt defensive and asking what you could do differently next time. Maybe it’s telling a friend or therapist about the pain you’ve been carrying. Every time you choose to pause, reflect, or own your part, you’re rewriting the story of how you love and connect. For support from a therapist who understands, feel free to book a free consultation

You’re not alone in this. I’ve been there, wrestling with the same patterns, the same intense emotions, and I’ve found that healing is possible when you give yourself permission to try. What’s one small step you can take today to start healing those past relationships? It could be as simple as taking a deep breath and saying, I’m ready to let go and grow. You’ve got this, and every step forward is proof of your strength. Book a consultation to get support on your journey today.

Healing narcissistic traits isn’t about pointing fingers or slapping a label on someone else as “the narcissist.” It’s about turning inward, noticing those moments when we cling to our own opinions, get defensive, or try to control how others think or feel. We all have layers of narcissism—it’s part of being human. But taking the brave step to heal those traits means facing shame, softening defences, and learning to honour everyone’s unique journey. If you’re ready to let go of those walls and step into your authentic, worthy self, this guide is for you. You’re not alone, and there’s no shame in showing up for this work.

What Are Narcissistic Traits?

Narcissistic traits show up when we hold our thoughts and feelings as the only truth. Maybe you’ve felt that spark of defensiveness when someone challenges your perspective—like preferring natural healing over medication. There’s nothing wrong with your view; it’s shaped by your story, your experiences, your heart. But when we expect others to adopt our way of thinking or dismiss their feelings to prove we’re right, that’s where narcissism sneaks in.

It’s not about being a bad person. It’s about a protective wall we build to avoid feeling wrong, small, or unworthy. That wall often hides deep shame—maybe from childhood, when our feelings weren’t validated or we were made to feel “less than.” So, we push our perspectives forward, seeking control to feel seen and heard. Healing starts when we notice this pattern—when we catch ourselves getting stubborn or righteous in a conversation—and choose to pause instead of pushing.

Why Healing Narcissism Feels So Hard

Healing narcissistic traits can feel like climbing a mountain because it means facing shame head-on. When someone says, “Hey, you hurt my feelings,” it’s easy to snap back, to defend ourselves as right. That defensiveness is a shield, protecting us from feeling smaller or wrong. But letting go of that shield doesn’t make you weak—it makes you brave.

Shame whispers that we’re not enough, so we double down, insisting our way is the only way. For example, you might strongly believe in natural healing, and that’s valid. But someone choosing medication isn’t wrong—they’re just at a different point in their journey. Their story, their needs, and their evolution are unique. Narcissism tells us everyone should be like us, but healing means recognizing that we don’t know their full story—and we don’t need to. Letting go of that need to control opens up space for empathy and connection.

The hardest part? Dropping that shield means feeling vulnerable. It’s scary to admit we might’ve hurt someone or been wrong, because shame can feel like a tidal wave. But that vulnerability is where growth happens. It’s where we start to see that our worth doesn’t depend on being right or in control.

How to Start Healing Narcissistic Traits

You don’t need to have it all figured out to begin. Healing narcissistic traits is a journey of small, intentional steps. Here are five gentle ways to release shame, soften defensiveness, and honour both your truth and others’:

1. Pause and Notice Your Defensiveness

Next time you feel that urge to argue or prove your point, take a breath. Ask yourself, Am I reacting to protect my ego? Maybe someone disagrees with your stance on natural healing, and you feel attacked. That’s your defensiveness kicking in. Instead of firing back, try saying, “I hear you,” and sit with the discomfort. This pause creates space for reflection and connection, rather than conflict.

Exercise: Keep a small notebook or note on your phone. For one week, jot down moments when you feel defensive. Note what triggered it and how you responded. This isn’t about judging yourself—it’s about building awareness.

2. Embrace Shame as a Teacher

Shame feels heavy, but it’s a signal pointing to old wounds. When you feel the need to control a conversation or insist on being right, ask, What am I afraid of feeling? Maybe it’s the fear of being “less than” or unworthy. Instead of pushing it away, lean into it gently. Journaling or talking with a trusted friend can help you process shame without getting stuck in it.

Exercise: Write a letter to your younger self, the one who first felt shame or wasn’t validated. Tell them they’re enough, just as they are. This can help soften those old wounds and remind you that shame doesn’t define you.

3. Validate Others’ Perspectives

You don’t have to agree with everyone, but you can honour their feelings. If someone shares a different view, try saying, “I see why you feel that way,” before sharing your own. It’s not about forcing your perspective or dismissing theirs—it’s about coexisting. This simple shift builds trust and reduces the need to control how others think.

Exercise: Practice active listening for one day. When someone shares their thoughts, focus on understanding, not responding. Reflect what you heard, like, “It sounds like you’re saying…” This helps you validate their experience without needing to “win.”

4. Let Go of Being Right

Healing narcissism means detaching from the idea that your thoughts define your worth. Your opinions—like choosing natural healing—are valid, but they’re not the whole truth. Practice saying, “This is how I see it, but I’m open to other views.” It’s liberating to let others be themselves without needing to change them or prove your point.

Exercise: Try a “no-debate” day. When you feel the urge to argue, say, “That’s an interesting perspective,” and let it go. Notice how it feels to release the need to be right. It’s not about giving up your voice—it’s about making space for others.

5. Seek Support to Go Deeper

Healing shame and control can feel overwhelming alone. A therapist, coach, or supportive community can hold space for you to explore these patterns without judgment. You’re not fixing a broken self—you’re uncovering the authentic, worthy you beneath those layers of defensiveness.

Exercise: Reflect on one person or resource (a friend, therapist, or even a book like The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown) that feels safe. Reach out or engage with those who support this week, even if it’s just a small step like scheduling a call.

You’re Not Alone in This

If you’re reading this and feeling a mix of relief, unease, or even a little exposed, take a deep breath. Recognizing narcissistic traits in yourself is a courageous act. It’s not about being a narcissist or a villain—it’s about being human in a world that often teaches us to hide our vulnerabilities. So many of us carry shame from unvalidated feelings, neglect, or past wounds. That’s not a flaw—it’s a shared experience.

We all have unique stories. Someone’s choice—to take medication, to live differently, to believe something else—is right for them in their journey. Narcissism tells us everyone should align with our way, but healing means letting go of that expectation. It’s about dropping the defences, facing the shame, and realizing you’re enough without needing to control others’ thoughts or feelings. It’s about coexisting, where you can be you, and they can be them, without judgment or resistance.

Why Healing Narcissism Matters

Healing narcissistic traits isn’t just about you—it’s about the ripple effect. When you soften your defences, you create space for deeper connections. You allow others to feel seen and heard, just as you’ve longed to be. You model what it looks like to grow, to be vulnerable, and to honour differences. And in doing so, you free yourself from the weight of shame and the need to control.

This journey isn’t about perfection. It’s about progress—small moments of awareness, like catching yourself before an argument or validating someone’s feelings even when you disagree. Each step brings you closer to your authentic self, the one who’s worthy and whole without needing to prove it.

Take the Next Step Toward Healing

You don’t have to walk this path alone. If you’re ready to explore healing narcissistic traits—or if you’re navigating the challenge of someone else’s narcissism—let’s connect. Book a free consultation to dive deeper into uncovering your authentic self, free from shame and control. This is a safe space to explore, grow, and embrace your worth.

Thanks for being here, for showing up, and for reading. You’re not broken—you’re on a journey, and every step counts. Keep shining, keep growing, and I’ll see you in the next post.

Attachment matters—more than you might realize. 🌱 Explore how early emotional bonds with caregivers shape not only a child’s sense of security and self, but also how their brain develops to cope with emotions throughout life. Discover why it’s never too late to create meaningful change, and whether you’re a parent, caregiver, or educator, this post offers insight and hope as a new school year begins.

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Forgiveness is a powerful tool in the journey of emotional healing and personal growth. Forgiveness can be both a goal and a pathway towards healing deep-seated wounds, rebuilding relationships, and fostering a sense of inner peace.

Understanding Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the act of letting go of resentment, bitterness, and thoughts of vengeance or retribution towards someone who has wronged you. It's important to note that forgiving does not mean forgetting, nor does it condone or excuse harmful behavior. Rather, forgiveness is a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance towards a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.

The Benefits of Forgiveness in Therapy

Forgiveness can lead to profound healing and numerous health benefits. These include:

* Reduced stress and anxiety: Letting go of grudges and bitterness can lead to lower levels of stress and anxiety.
* Health improvements: Forgiveness is linked to better heart health, lower blood pressure, and a stronger immune system.
* Enhanced mental health: It can lead to improvements in depression and overall emotional well-being.
* Improved relationships: Forgiveness can heal rifts and build stronger, healthier relationships.
* Increased happiness and peace of mind: Letting go of negative emotions can lead to greater happiness, contentment, and peace.

Achieving Forgiveness in Therapy

Forgiving someone who has deeply hurt you is no simple task, but it's possible with time, patience, and effort. Below are strategies that may be explored in therapy to cultivate a forgiving heart:

1. Recognizing the Value of Forgiveness

The first step in the process of forgiveness is understanding its value and how holding onto anger and resentment impacts you physically and emotionally. Realizing that forgiveness is more about your well-being than letting the offender off the hook can be a powerful motivator.

2. Reflecting on the Situation

Counseling provides a safe space to fully explore the emotions and circumstances surrounding the need for forgiveness. Through discussion, you may gain insights into the perspective of the other person, and the context in which the hurtful events occurred, helping to create a more nuanced understanding of the situation.

3. Expressing Your Feelings

A crucial step in the forgiveness process is giving voice to your pain and anger. Counselors often encourage clients to express their feelings openly, whether through dialogue, writing letters (not necessarily to be sent), or creative expression. This can be a release, helping to ease the burden of carried emotions.

4. Committing to Forgiveness

Deciding to forgive is a significant step. This decision involves recognizing the benefits of forgiveness, both for your mental health and for the quality of your relationships. It's a commitment to moving forward, focusing on positivity and growth.

5. Developing Empathy

Understanding or empathizing with the person who hurt you can be a profound step towards forgiveness. Counseling can help explore the possibilities of why people behave in hurtful ways, which sometimes makes it easier to forgive.

6. Letting Go

A pivotal moment in the journey of forgiveness is the act of letting go. This means actively choosing to release feelings of resentment and bitterness. It's not an overnight process but a decision that might need to be reaffirmed daily.

7. Fostering Gratitude

Shifting focus from resentment to gratitude can be transformative. Recognizing and appreciating the good in your life, despite past hurts, can pave the way for a more forgiving and positive outlook.

Conclusion

The journey to forgiveness is deeply personal and can be challenging, but the benefits are undeniable. Forgiveness can liberate one from the chains of past hurts and open the doors to a renewed sense of peace and well-being. In counseling, with guidance, patience, and perseverance, forgiveness can be achieved, leading to emotional healing and enriched relationships. Remember, the act of forgiveness is a gift to yourself—a step towards a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life.

Hey there, beautiful soul. If you're reading this, you're likely someone who feels the world on a deeper level—a healer, an empath, or a creative with a heart tuned to the subtle energies that flow through everything. You sense those powerful, invisible force fields, the relational threads connecting all beings. It's like you're wired to pick up on the divine hum of the universe. And let me tell you, that's not just special—it's sacred. Your calling as a healer isn't like any other path. It's not about building a business the way the world expects. It's about co-creating with God, trusting in His promises, and letting grace guide your every step. Let's explore what it means to embrace your spiritual healing journey and how you can step fully into this divinely guided work.

Feeling the Energetic Pulse of Healing

You know that feeling when you walk into a room and instantly pick up on the energy? Maybe it's a quiet buzz of peace or a heavy wave of someone's unspoken pain. As an empath, you're in tune with these subtle, powerful force fields that surround everything. It's like you're a receiver for the universe's unspoken language. This sensitivity isn't a burden—it's a gift. It's what allows you to connect deeply with others, to feel their struggles, and to hold space for their healing.

This energetic awareness sets you apart as a healer. You don't just see people; you feel their essence, their soul's quiet whispers. Whether you're a Reiki practitioner, a spiritual coach, or someone who heals through art or words, you know this work comes from a place beyond logic. It's intuitive, visceral, and deeply spiritual. You're not just offering a service—you're channeling something greater, a divine energy that flows through you to touch others. This is the heart of your empathic healing practice, and it's what makes your work so transformative.

The Divine Guidance in Your Healing Work

Unlike traditional entrepreneurs who map out business plans or chase market trends, your path as a healer is different. You don't validate your work with spreadsheets or hustle for the next big idea. Instead, you're co-creating with God, guided by a force that's bigger than you. It's like you're following a sacred blueprint, one that unfolds in divine timing. You feel it, don't you? That quiet nudge, that inner knowing that tells you who to help, when to act, and what to say.

This divine guidance is what makes your work as a divinely guided healer so powerful. You're not just building a practice—you're answering a calling. Every client who crosses your path, every soul you touch, is part of a greater plan. It's as if God has already chosen the people you're meant to help, and your job is to trust that process. When you lean into this, you realize you don't have to force anything. The right people show up at the right time, drawn to your light because it's meant to be. This trust in divine guidance sets your intuitive healing business apart from the hustle-driven world. It's not about competition or metrics—it's about surrender, faith, and letting the universe lead.

Trusting God's Promises as a Healer

Here's the truth you already know deep down: God's got you. As a healer, you're living from a place of grace, held by a promise that you'll always be provided for. Your work isn't about chasing success the way the world defines it. It's about trusting that every step of your journey—every client, every breakthrough, every moment of doubt—is part of a divine plan. God's will for you is to put your healing gifts out into the world, to share them boldly, and to trust that He's leading the way.

This trust can feel daunting, especially when the world tells you to hustle harder or measure your worth in dollars. But you know better. You know that your work is for His glory, not yours. Every time you share your gifts, you're honoring that promise. Whether you're holding space for someone's pain, channeling energy through your hands, or creating art that uplifts souls, you're walking in alignment with God's purpose for you. The clients you work with, the lives you touch—they're all part of His plan, chosen for you in His perfect timing.

This faith in divine provision frees you from the pressure to "make it happen." You don't need to worry about where the next client will come from or how your work will sustain you. God's promise is that He will always provide, and as a healer, you feel that truth in your bones. Your spiritual healing journey isn't built on worldly strategies—it's built on grace, faith, and the certainty that you're exactly where you're meant to be.

Healing Yourself Through Your Work

Here's the beautiful secret of being a healer: as you pour your gifts into the world, you're also healing yourself. Every time you share your story, your energy, or your light, you're weaving your own spiritual healing journey into the fabric of your work. There's something profoundly powerful about being a vessel for healing. It's like God is working through you not just to touch others, but to mend the tender parts of your own heart.

When you hold space for someone's pain, you're also holding space for your own. When you channel divine energy, you're filled with it too. This co-creative process—working hand in hand with God—transforms you as much as it transforms those you help. Your wounds, your struggles, your story—they become the foundation of your healing work. By sharing them authentically, you create a ripple effect of healing that extends far beyond what you can see.

Think about it: every time you step into your role as a healer, you're saying yes to your own growth. You're trusting that God is using your delicate vessel—your empathic heart, your creative spirit—to bring light into the world. And in that process, you're mending yourself. It's a sacred cycle of giving and receiving, of healing and being healed. There's nothing more powerful than that.

Stepping Boldly Into Your Calling

So, how do you fully embrace this divinely guided healer path? It starts with trust—trust in God's plan, trust in your gifts, and trust in the process. You don't need to have it all figured out. You don't need a perfect website, a massive following, or a five-year business plan. What you need is faith that your work is enough because it's divinely ordained.

Start small. Share your gifts in whatever way feels right—maybe it's offering a healing session to a friend, writing about your journey, or creating art that channels your energy. Every step you take is a step toward fulfilling God's will for you. And as you share, you'll notice something amazing: the more you give, the more you receive. The more you trust, the more the universe provides.

Your intuitive healing business doesn't have to look like anyone else's. Maybe you host virtual energy sessions, create guided meditations, or weave healing into your poetry or paintings. Whatever form it takes, know that it's perfect because it's yours. It's the unique expression of your soul, guided by divine hands.

Overcoming Doubts and Fears

Let's be real—walking this path isn't always easy. As empaths and creatives, we feel everything so deeply, including our own doubts and fears. What if no one shows up? What if I'm not good enough? What if I can't make this work? Those thoughts creep in, don't they? But here's the truth: those fears are just part of the journey, and they're no match for the divine plan.

When doubt creeps in, remember this: you were chosen for this work. God didn't pick you by accident. Your empathic heart, your sensitivity to the world's energies, your creative spirit—they're all part of His design. Every time you feel uncertain, lean into that inner knowing. Pray, meditate, or simply sit in stillness and listen for that divine nudge. It’s always there, guiding you back to your purpose.

And when the world feels heavy, when you're overwhelmed by the energies around you, give yourself permission to rest. As a healer, you're a delicate vessel, and that means taking care of yourself is part of the work. Set boundaries, ground yourself, and return to the practices that fill your cup—whether that's time in nature, journaling, or connecting with your spiritual practice.

The Ripple Effect of Your Healing Work

Your work as a healer isn't just about the people you help directly—it's about the ripple effect you create. Every soul you touch, every heart you uplift, sends out waves of healing into the world. It's like dropping a pebble into a pond—the ripples spread far beyond what you can see. And the most beautiful part? As you heal others, you're also healing yourself, and that healing radiates outward, touching lives you may never even meet.

This is the power of your spiritual healing journey. It's not just about you or your clients—it's about contributing to a greater wave of love, light, and transformation. You're part of something bigger, a divine tapestry woven by God's hands. And every time you show up, every time you share your gifts, you're fulfilling His purpose for you.

Living in Alignment with Your Purpose

So, beautiful soul, as you walk this path, know this: you are enough. Your gifts, your sensitivity, your intuitive knowing—they're all exactly what the world needs. Your empathic healing work is a sacred offering, a co-creation with the divine. You don't have to do it alone, and you don't have to do it perfectly. All you need to do is trust, show up, and let God's grace flow through you.

Take a moment right now to breathe deeply and feel that truth. You are a divinely guided healer, chosen to bring light into the world. The clients, the opportunities, the impact—they're all coming in divine timing. Your job is to keep saying yes to this calling, to keep sharing your gifts, and to keep trusting that God will provide.

This is your spiritual healing journey, and it's unlike any other. It's a path of faith, grace, and profound transformation—for you, for those you help, and for the world. So step boldly into it, knowing that you're held, guided, and loved every step of the way.

If you are seeking support with a trauma-informed faith-based therapist and healer for your spiritual and divinely guided journey, feel free to reach out for a free consultation.

In today’s fast-paced world, anxiety has become a common affliction affecting millions globally. However, for Christians, faith offers a powerful resource in the struggle against anxiety, providing not only spiritual strength but also practical approaches rooted in biblical teachings. This blog explores how integrating Christian faith can help individuals effectively manage and overcome anxiety.

Understanding Anxiety within Christian Beliefs

Anxiety, characterized by excessive worry and fear, can often leave one feeling powerless. Within Christianity, these feelings are addressed with encouraging narratives of hope, trust, and divine support. The Bible does not shy away from discussing fear; instead, it provides multiple reassurances that fear can be overcome through faith. For instance, scriptures like 1 Peter 5:7, "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you," provides a comforting reminder of God's enduring presence and care.

Prayer: A Vital Tool for Peace

Prayer is a foundational aspect of the Christian life and a profound way to combat anxiety. It involves both speaking with God and taking time to listen, creating a space for tranquility in a chaotic mind. Through prayer, you can cast your worries upon God, gaining peace in the assurance that you are not alone in your struggles. Practices like daily devotional time help in focusing the mind on God’s promises rather than anxious thoughts.

Meditating on Scripture

The Bible is rich with verses that specifically address worry and anxiety. Regular meditation on these scriptures can help internalize God’s peace. Philippians 4:6-7 advises believers not to be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, to present their requests to God. This passage, along with others, can be a source of great comfort and a practical tool in managing anxiety by refocusing thoughts on God's sovereignty and care.

Community Support in the Church

The Christian church is not just a place of worship but a vibrant community of support. Sharing your struggles with trusted church members can provide you with a support network that understands the power of prayer and communal healing. Furthermore, many churches offer counseling services or support groups dedicated to those battling anxiety, where scripture and prayer are part of the healing process.

Living Out Your Faith

Active faith is a powerful antidote to anxiety. Engaging in church activities, serving others, and being involved in community outreach are ways to put faith into action. Such activities provide a sense of purpose and belonging, reducing feelings of isolation and anxiety. Additionally, seeing one’s faith make a tangible difference in the lives of others can greatly enhance one’s own emotional and spiritual well-being.

The Role of Counseling

There are times when anxiety may need professional intervention, and counseling can be a vital resource. We integrate faith with psychological principles to provide a holistic approach to treatment. We respect the spiritual beliefs of their clients, often incorporating prayer and scripture meditation into their therapeutic practices.

Embracing Patience and Perseverance

Overcoming anxiety is often a gradual process that requires patience and perseverance. As James 1:3-4 teaches, the testing of one’s faith produces perseverance, and perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. Steadfastness in faith, continuous prayer, and regular engagement with the Christian community can foster resilience and a deeper spiritual life, gradually diminishing the hold of anxiety.

Conclusion

For Christians, battling anxiety is not just about managing symptoms but also strengthening one’s faith. By leaning into practices such as prayer, scripture meditation, community support, and Christian counseling, believers can find profound relief from anxiety. These practices not only provide practical methods for managing anxiety but also deepen the believer's relationship with God, offering peace that transcends understanding. In embracing their faith, Christians find not only solace in the present but also hope for a future free from the bonds of anxiety.

Do you ever feel like you're carrying the weight of everyone else's emotions, leaving you completely exhausted? If you're an empath, that drained feeling might be all too familiar, and you might not even realize why your energy keeps slipping away. I've been there, pouring myself out without understanding how my openness was tied to old wounds. Let's dive into why this happens, how it affects your health, and what you can do to take back your power. This is for you—because you deserve to feel whole, vibrant, and in control of your energy.

The Empath's Drain: Where It All Begins

Being an empath means you feel everything deeply—not just your own emotions but everyone else's too. It's a beautiful gift, but it can become a heavy burden when you're wide open to everyone, all the time. For me, this started way back, rooted in childhood neglect and a complete lack of boundaries. I used to think being open was my strength, but it wasn't always a choice. It was conditioning—people-pleasing to keep the peace with those who didn't respect my space. Sound familiar?

This kind of openness isn't the brave, intentional kind. It's a vulnerability that comes from not knowing how to say no, from tolerating behaviors that hurt you. According to Psychology Today, empaths often struggle with boundaries because they absorb others' energy so intensely. Without realizing it, you're giving away your life force, and it leaves you drained—mentally, emotionally, and even physically. If you're nodding along, wondering why you're so tired, this might be where it starts.

How Unhealed Wounds Keep You Drained

That constant openness? It's often tied to an unhealed wound. For me, it was chasing validation from relationships that echoed old patterns—like with narcissistic partners or family dynamics. I didn't see it at the time, but I was addicted to those connections, hoping they'd fill a void. Spoiler: they never did. Instead, they drained me further.

When you're stuck in this cycle, your unconscious mind runs the show. You're projecting that need for healing onto every relationship—romantic partners, coworkers, even strangers on social media. It's like you're searching for something that never comes, and it's exhausting. Healthline explains that codependent patterns—where you prioritize others' needs over your own—can amplify this, leaving you feeling empty. You're not just tired; you're pouring your energy into a black hole, and it's time to understand why.

The Physical Toll: Gut Issues and Immune Struggles

Here's where it gets real: that emotional drain doesn't just mess with your head—it hits your body hard. When you're constantly giving away your energy, your nervous system stays on high alert. That chronic stress can lead to gut issues like bloating, IBS, or discomfort, and it can weaken your immune system, making you more prone to colds or fatigue. Research from Cleveland Clinic shows chronic stress suppresses immunity, and for empaths, that lack of boundaries only makes it worse.

Then there's the internalized abuser—the part of you that beats yourself up, ignores your own needs, or pushes you to tolerate what doesn't serve you. That self-abuse is like a double hit: you're draining yourself from the inside while the world takes from the outside. For me, ignoring my needs led to gut flare-ups and feeling run-down all the time. Your body feels the weight of those unhealed patterns just as much as your spirit does. If your gut's acting up or you're always sick, it might be your body begging you to protect your energy.

Waking Up to Your Patterns

You can't change what you don't see. For me, the turning point was sitting in silence, really facing why I felt so drained. I realized I was chasing relationships that mirrored my past, hoping they'd fix me. They didn't. But that moment of awareness? It was everything.

To start healing, you have to wake up to these patterns. Ask yourself: Why am I so open to everyone? Is it courage, or is it conditioning? Journaling can help here. Verywell Mind suggests writing down moments when you feel drained to spot triggers. Maybe it's that friend who vents but never listens, or a partner who dismisses your needs. Seeing these patterns is the first step to breaking free. You're not stuck—you're just starting to see the truth, and that's powerful.

Healing the Original Wound

The real work is healing that core wound—the one that keeps you seeking validation from unhealthy sources. For me, it was facing the neglect from childhood, the way I learned to tolerate abuse to feel loved. It's not easy, but it's worth it. Therapy, meditation, or energy work can help you dig into that original pain and start to release it. According to Greater Good Magazine, facing past trauma with professional support can rewire how you relate to yourself and others.

Therapy was a game-changer for me—a safe space to unpack those wounds and learn to stop giving my power away. It's not about closing yourself off; it's about choosing who gets your energy and why. If you're ready to heal, reaching out to a therapist can be the first step to reclaiming your energy. You don't have to do this alone—help is out there, and you deserve it.

Setting Boundaries: Your Energy Shield

Setting boundaries is like building a shield for your soul. It's not selfish—it's survival. Start small: say no to something that doesn't feel right, like a last-minute favor that leaves you stretched thin. Notice how it feels to protect your energy. Mayo Clinic emphasizes that boundaries reduce stress and improve mental health. For empaths, this is crucial—your sensitivity means you need to be discerning about who gets access to you.

Try this: before you say yes to someone, pause. Ask yourself, Is this person a safe space for my energy? If the answer's no, it's okay to step back. You're not being mean—you're being sovereign. This discernment turns your vulnerability into strength, rooted in choice rather than conditioning. Over time, these boundaries will help you feel less drained and more in control.

Taking Back Your Power

Here's the truth: you're not doomed to feel drained forever. That exhaustion comes from giving your power away, from old wounds and patterns that don't serve you anymore. But you can change it. You can heal that core emptiness by facing it, not running from it. You can stop projecting that need for validation onto the world.

Start by being kind to yourself. That internalized abuser? It's time to quiet that voice. Replace it with one that says, I'm enough. Meditation can help—try a five-minute practice where you just breathe and let go of everyone else's energy. Pair that with therapy to dig deeper into those wounds. BetterHelp offers accessible options to connect with a therapist who can guide you through this. Small steps like these build up, helping you reclaim your energy and feel whole again.

Your Next Step: Reach Out for Support

You're not meant to stay drained, and you're not meant to carry the world's weight. As an empath, your sensitivity is your superpower, but only when you protect it with boundaries and heal those old wounds. If you're ready to stop feeling exhausted, take that brave step and reach out for therapy. A trauma-informed therapist can help you untangle those patterns, heal the hurt, and teach you how to hold your energy sacred. For a trauma-informed therapist who completely understands you and can help, feel free to contact me for a free 15-minute consultation. Your energy is yours—reclaim it. Start today, because you deserve to feel light, whole, and in charge of your life.

Letting Go of Control: How Empaths and Healers Can Build a Soul-Aligned Business

Hey there, beautiful soul. If you’re an empath, a healer, or someone who feels the world deeply, running a business can feel like a tug-of-war. You’re told to post every day, be consistent, and follow endless to-do lists, but your sensitive heart? It’s whispering something different. Perhaps you’ve felt drained, as if your business is running you instead of you running it. I get it—I’ve been there.

Tonight, as I sat in the quiet, processing the weight of my own business, I felt tired and heavy, as if I were forcing myself against a wall. But something shifted, and I want to share that shift with you—not because I have it all figured out, but because I know you’re out there, feeling the same pull to align your business with your soul, with God, with something bigger than the hustle. This blog is for you—the empath, the healer, the spiritual entrepreneur—who wants a business that feels like home, not a cage. Let’s talk about how letting go of control can set you free to build a sustainable, soul-aligned business that honours your delicate constitution and deepens your connection to your soul and God.

The Weight of Control in Business

You know that feeling when your to-do list feels like a mountain? Post on Instagram. Write a blog. Network. Sell. Repeat. The rules of business can feel like a machine, demanding you perform, be on, and churn out content like clockwork. As empaths and healers, we’re wired to feel everything—every expectation, every pressure. And when we try to fit into that rigid mould, it’s exhausting. It’s like we’re serving the business instead of letting it serve our purpose.

For me, this hit hard tonight. I was wrestling with my business, feeling like it was controlling me. I’ve carried this pattern my whole life—control from childhood, control in relationships, control in every corner where I thought I had to perform to be enough. Maybe you relate. Maybe you’ve grown up with voices telling you to do more or be better, and now your business feels like another place where you’re trying to prove yourself. But here’s the thing: that control? It’s not you. It’s not your soul. It’s a paradigm we’ve been taught, a collective weight that says business has to look a certain way. And for sensitive souls like us, forcing ourselves into that box can disconnect us from who we are—co-creators, vessels of God’s grace, here to heal and grow. Check out Psychology Today’s take on control for more on how this dynamic shows up in our lives.

Your Body Knows: Listening to Your Sensitivity

As empaths and healers, our bodies are our guides. Your sensitivity isn’t a weakness—it’s your superpower for spiritual growth. When you’re out of alignment, your body tells you. Maybe it’s that knot in your stomach, the exhaustion that hits out of nowhere, or the sadness when you’re disconnected from God’s presence. I felt it tonight—this heaviness, like I was carrying my business like a boulder. My shoulders were tight, my heart was racing, and my soul was like, Hey, this isn’t right. You’re not here to perform for your business—you’re here to grow closer to God, to your soul, to your truth.

If you’re feeling that same heaviness, pause and listen to your body. It’s not lying. Your sensitivity is your vehicle for spiritual growth, and it’s telling you something important. When we ignore it, we risk bypassing our mental and emotional processes, and that disconnect? It makes us feel far from home. For me, being out of God’s presence feels like I’m not myself—like I’m living for what others expect instead of what’s true. It’s heartbreaking, and I know you’ve felt it too.

Why Control Feels So Familiar

Control is sneaky because it’s so familiar. For me, it’s rooted in childhood trauma—growing up with parents who controlled so much, I learned to grip life tightly just to feel safe. I’ve carried that into relationships, business, everything. Sound familiar? Maybe you’ve been controlled by others or felt the need to control every detail to prove your worth. But here’s the truth: control is an illusion, and it’s draining us. When we let our business control us—or when we try to control every detail of it—we’re not free. We’re not sovereign. We’re not living from the power of our souls.

Tonight, I asked myself, If I’m not controlled, who am I? That question was scary because control has been my default for so long. But as I did my somatic work—breathing into the tension, feeling the fear—I realized I don’t have to perform for my business. I just need to connect to my soul and trust God’s promises. That shift felt like unclenching a fist, like I could breathe again. You can find that freedom too. It’s not about throwing out all structure—some control is human and necessary—but about letting go of the need to force things. Harvard Health has great insights on how letting go of control can reduce stress and boost mental health.

The Shift: From Force to Power

Here’s where it gets exciting. There’s a difference between force and power, and as empaths and healers, we’re wired to live from power—authentic, soul-deep power that comes from aligning with our truth and God’s promises. Force is when we grind, push through resistance, or follow business rules just because. Power? That’s when we surrender, connect to our souls, and let our businesses reflect our spiritual growth.

Tonight, I leaned into my somatic work—feeling where I was holding control like a vice. I breathed through it, asked God to guide me, and realized my business doesn’t have to control me. It’s not my boss. It’s a mirror—a reflection of my wounds, yes, but also of my sovereignty, my creativity, my connection to something bigger. When I let go of that need to perform, I felt lighter. My business and I were in the same room, not fighting for power, but coexisting in peace.

You can do this too. If you’re feeling drained, ask yourself: Is my business controlling me? Am I trying to control it? Then feel into your body. Where’s the tension? That’s where the work begins. It’s not about ditching your to-do list—strategy matters! But it’s about leading with your soul, not your shoulds.

A Soul-Aligned Business: What It Looks Like

So, what does a soul-aligned business look like for empaths and healers? It’s not about abandoning consistency or never posting again. It’s about showing up from a place of truth, where your actions flow from your connection to God and your soul, not from a need to prove yourself. Here’s how you can start:

Listen to Your Body First
Your sensitivity is your guide. If you’re exhausted or forcing content, pause. Check in with your body—maybe through breathwork, a walk, or just sitting still. Ask: What’s my soul needing right now? This isn’t bypassing strategy; it’s grounding it in truth. MindBodyGreen has great tools for tuning into your body’s wisdom.
Surrender the Shoulds
Those voices saying you should post every day or should have a perfect funnel? They’re not your truth. Write down one business rule that feels heavy, like I must be consistent no matter what. Then, pray or journal: God, show me how to release this. Help me trust Your provision. For me, letting go of the need to perform felt like freedom. You don’t owe your business your exhaustion.
Take Aligned Action
When you’re connected to your soul and God’s promises, your actions have a different energy. Writing a blog post, creating a course, or connecting with clients feels genuine, not forced. Tonight, I’m writing this from my soul, not because I had to for my business. You’ll know you’re in power when your work feels like an offering, not an obligation. Forbes shares how authenticity drives connection—perfect for empaths in business.
Honour Your Delicate Constitution
As empaths, we’re wired differently. Our bodies feel everything—the stress of a deadline, the pressure to perform, the disconnect when we’re not in God’s presence. Honouring your sensitivity means permitting yourself to rest, to say no to hustle culture, and to build a business that supports your body, not drains it. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s okay to step back. Say no to a project that feels misaligned. Trust that God’s provision is bigger than any missed opportunity.
The Healing Power of Surrender

Here’s the heart of it: building a soul-aligned business is about surrender—layer by layer, letting go of control and trusting God’s promises. For me, this is still a work in progress. I’m learning to let His love, provision, and grace land in my heart, my body, my intuition. But every time I release that grip, I feel more like myself—more sovereign, more connected, more me.

When we stop idolizing business—stop putting it on a pedestal—we take the pressure off. Our nervous systems relax. Our bodies thank us. We’re not performing; we’re being. And that’s where the magic happens. Your business becomes a vessel for your soul’s growth, a mirror for your healing, and a way to share God’s love with the world. For empaths and healers, this is everything. It’s how we create businesses that are sustainable, supportive, and deeply aligned with who we are.

Your Next Step: Trust the Process

If you’re feeling that heaviness, that control, that disconnect, know this: you don’t have to stay there. You’re not alone in this journey. Start small. Today, take five minutes to check in with your body. Notice where you’re holding tension. Pray, journal, or just breathe: God, help me let go of what’s not mine to carry. Then, take one aligned action—maybe it’s writing a post from your heart, reaching out to a client you love, or simply resting because your body needs it.

Your sensitivity is your strength. Your business is your mirror, not your master. And God’s got you—His promises are real, and He’s providing for you right now, even in the messiness of it all. So, beautiful empath, healer, co-creator, let go of the need to control. Let your business flow from your soul. You’ve got this, and you’re not alone.

Ready to take the next step in building your soul-aligned business? I’d love to support you. Reach out for a one-on-one consultation where we can dive into your unique journey, release those heavy controls, and create a business that feels like home. Contact me here to book your session—let’s co-create something beautiful, aligned, and true to your soul.

As healers and empaths, we dream of growing our businesses, but the idea of “scaling” can feel like climbing a mountain. For so long, I saw it as this huge, heavy project—one that demanded performance and perfection. It stirred old wounds: people-pleasing tendencies, the need to prove myself, and echoes of narcissistic abuse that made me feel I had to pedestalize myself to succeed.

But that’s not what scaling is about. I know you feel it too—you want something deeper, something truer. You want a path that feels like home and is sustainable for your vessel.

The Empath’s Sensitive Body: A Sacred Guide

If you’re a healer or empath, your body is exquisitely sensitive. You feel the world’s energy in your bones—gut issues, skin flare-ups, or that tight knot of fight, flight, fawn, or freeze responses. These aren’t just symptoms; they’re sacred signals, your body’s way of keeping you aligned with your truth.

Our bodies are our medicine. They guide us back to ourselves and to God, whispering when we’re straying from our soul’s path. For empaths with delicate constitutions, these signals are especially loud—gut discomfort, rashes, or that overwhelming urge to shrink or please.

I used to think my body’s reactions were holding me back. But now I see them as divine messengers, urging me to slow down and listen. Your body is doing the same for you, isn’t it?

Scaling Isn’t About Striving

Scaling a business as a healer or empath isn’t about pushing harder. It’s not about chasing metrics, followers, or external validation. It’s about surrendering to God’s will and trusting He’s aligning everything behind the scenes.

For years, I thought scaling meant performing—being the loudest, the best, the most “successful.” But that mindset only triggered my sensitive body, sending my nervous system into overdrive. It wasn’t sustainable, and it didn’t feel like me.

The real work is about deepening your connection to your soul. It’s about letting go of the need to prove your business will “work.” Because here’s the truth: your business isn’t yours—it’s God’s.

Surrendering to God’s Plan

When you surrender your business to God, something shifts. Your body softens, like it’s exhaling a breath it’s held for years. It feels like coming home.

Surrendering doesn’t mean giving up. It means trusting that God is orchestrating the details—the clients, the opportunities, the growth—while you focus on aligning with His grace. As healers, our mission is to be vessels, not controllers.

I used to stress over every step, worrying if I was “doing enough.” But when I let go and trusted God’s timing, my gut stopped churning. My skin cleared. My heart felt lighter.

The Holy Mission of the Healer

This is the holy mission of the healer: to be a vessel for God’s work. We’re here to guide other empaths, creatives, and sensitive souls back to their divine connection. Our businesses are mirrors, reflecting what needs healing in us—what we must reclaim or release to grow closer to God.

For me, that meant facing my people-pleasing patterns. It meant healing the wounds that made me feel I had to perform to be worthy. What’s your business mirroring for you right now?

Your sensitive body is your ally in this. Those gut twinges, those skin flare-ups—they’re not obstacles. They’re guiding you toward what’s true, what’s aligned, what’s sustainable.

Listening to Your Body’s Wisdom

As empaths and healers, our bodies are finely tuned to truth. When we push too hard or stray from God’s path, our sensitive systems react—gut issues flare, skin speaks, or we freeze under pressure. These are invitations to pause and reconnect.

I’ve learned to listen when my body speaks. One day, overwhelmed by a launch, my stomach knotted, and my skin broke out. Instead of pushing through, I prayed, surrendered, and asked God to guide me.

The answer wasn’t a new strategy—it was rest. It was trusting that God’s plan was unfolding without my need to control it. My body relaxed, and the launch flowed effortlessly.

A Sustainable Path for Sensitive Souls

Our delicate constitutions aren’t built for the hustle. The world’s idea of scaling—grind, push, achieve—doesn’t work for us. It burns out our nervous systems, aggravates our gut, and leaves us feeling disconnected.

Scaling authentically means honoring your body’s limits. It means creating space for your soul to breathe, trusting God to handle the rest. This is the only path that’s sustainable for us as healers and empaths.

When we surrender, we stop fighting our sensitivity. We embrace it as our strength, our guide, our medicine. We let God lead, and we follow with open hearts.

Your Business as a Divine Mirror

Your business isn’t just a vehicle for income—it’s a sacred space for growth. It shows you where you’re holding on too tightly, where you’re seeking validation, where you’re afraid to trust. For me, scaling brought up fears of not being enough, rooted in past trauma.

But as I surrendered those fears to God, I found freedom. My business became less about “success” and more about serving as a vessel for His love. It became a mirror for my own healing and a way to guide others.

What’s your business showing you right now? Maybe it’s asking you to release control, to trust more deeply, or to honor your body’s needs. Whatever it is, it’s leading you closer to God.

Coming Home to Yourself and God

When we trust God is working through us, our bodies respond. The wisdom of our sensitive systems shines—our gut calms, our skin clears, our nervous system settles. This is the sign of alignment, of coming home to ourselves and God.

Scaling authentically isn’t about bigger numbers or louder wins. It’s about creating space for your soul, submitting to God’s will, and trusting He’s got this. It’s about being a vessel for His grace, not a performer on a stage.

To my fellow healers and empaths, your sensitive body is your greatest gift. Those gut twinges, those skin signals—they’re guiding you toward truth. Listen to them, surrender to God, and let your business be a holy mission.

Join the Journey

You’re not alone on this path. We’re walking it together, as vessels of grace, helping others find their way home to themselves. Book a free consultation, and we can tune into how your body is guiding you back home to yourself.